Jasmine8719 Posted May 27, 2008 Posted May 27, 2008 [FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 2 yrs now, I’m 20 he’s 23. I trust him… I honestly do and we have such a good relationship, and we love each other very much. I feel like I’m really good to him I give him his guy time and I’m very understanding and caring and I just truly love him and he’s the same toward me. We just have a good mutual relationship…but…. He dated his ex back in high school it’s been about 6 yrs or so, but they still remained friends. Every once in a while I’ll hear about her, she went through a rough time with her current boyfriend, he got her on drugs and my boyfriend was mad because she was such a nice girl came from a good family, anyways, so she moved back up here a little while ago after her family went to go get her. Yesterday I was on the couch sitting next to my bf and she called, I could hear her. They were talking and she goes “so when are we going to hang out” and he goes “whenever you want to” She‘s like well I’ll come over now, he says well go ahead …and then they get into this little dumb argument about how her boyfriend called him at like 3 in morning mad I guess because there still friends, or whatever and he wanted his phone number to have a little chat….I’ve talked to him about her before and how I feel about the whole situation. I guess he still cares for her and was upset that she got caught up in bad things. He tried to reassure me that there was nothing between them that she’s not the same girl he dated in high school, she’s not right for him or whatever and that he loved me and he has no feelings for her what so ever. I don’t believe I have the right to stay, no you can’t see her or be friends… even though I really want to...But what’s the point of them having a friendship? Can a guy even be friends with a girl without it moving to the next level, there have to be some kind of attraction right? He has quit a few guy friends 5 or 6 really close ones and only like 2 or 3 girls that are his friends with too. He called me at work one day telling me that he was going out to lunch with one of his friends (girl) and was just letting me know. I just feel like I’m in a competition and she has an advantage over me because they were high school sweethearts they went to prom together everything. But I guess my question is what’s crossing the line? I’ve already talked to him about this and I don’t want to keep bringing it up to him…He’s never given me any reason not to trust him..but with his ex is in the picture…. I just dunno how to handle it anymore…[/sIZE][/FONT]
blondie_xo Posted May 27, 2008 Posted May 27, 2008 If you trust him then there should be no problem. If he starts devoting ALL of his attention and all of his time to this girl, then, however, that is a problem and it needs to stop. Casual chatting is ok... as awkward as it is being that she is his ex high school sweetie and all.. but he is with you now, has been for 2 years, and if he hasn't gave you any reason to NOT trust them then things should be fine!
Author Jasmine8719 Posted May 27, 2008 Author Posted May 27, 2008 I think your right....maybe it's me just thinking about it wayyyy to much
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