eagle5 Posted May 27, 2008 Posted May 27, 2008 Hi guys, yes it's nearly 6 months since I was dumped and I just wanted to post to give some hope to all of you who are going through the s**t right now. I have had some major up's and downs over those months but the up's were always a bit higher each time. The downs were sometimes bad and other times really bad!!! BUT in the last couple of weeks I've really pulled out of the past, and into a much better state. It's not all over and out of my head by far but it's a great step forward. I've had a date (relatively light hearted, ok we spent the night together too!) but I actually enjoyed her company and didn't once think about the ex. It was liberating just to do that, I've since thought about seeing my date again instead of always remembering the feelings I had for the ex. I now (for the first time) can really see the faults in my ex and can say with some conviction that I'd never go back to her!!! My advice (and I really hope this may help some of you) is - -DO stick with nc no matter how hard it seems at the time -Post on LS anything you feel you need to whenever you need to -Go out with friends whenever you can and try to expand your social circle -Talk to others as some people really do have some good advice, especially if they've been through it -Get active, start a sport or something that'll give you a sense of achievement -Set yourself mini targets in your near future and larger targets further ahead -Rediscover yourself and realise that you exist indipendently from your ex, you were there before them and you're here now! I haven't posted for a while but I just want to thank LS and everyone who helped me go through the toughest time of my life, it has been a lifesaver! Keep your heads up friends, it WILL be ok - eventually. Love to you all.........Eagle
foxh1234 Posted May 27, 2008 Posted May 27, 2008 Thanks for posting that. It sounds like you are doing great. It has been 2 months for me with 1 month of NC and I am feeling better each day. I wouldn't say great everyday, but some days for sure. I agree that NC is the bomb!! It is the only way for me at least to get past the old feelings and move on. I hope I am where you are when I reach 6 months, I am moving towards it for sure. I also agree about how much LS and all the great people have helped me. There is a great group of people here and the support is overwhelming and much appreciated. Keep up the good work and keep us posted.
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