D-D Posted May 27, 2008 Posted May 27, 2008 I've worked with a guy who is married for the past two years. He asked me the other day if I'd be up for going out to do something next weekend. Then he says his sister in law is single and keeps asking about me. I guess him and his wife (who I also know) have told her about me several times and she is interested now. My friend wants him, his wife, his sister in law and I all to go out to dinner and a movie together in order to hook me up with his sister in law whom I have never met or seen before. I have never been "set-up" on a date before and I am kind of hesitant to go along with this. On the other hand, it is not like I will be alone with her, at least my co-worker and his wife will be there. I am also unsure if I will find her attractive. My friend's wife is a heavier girl, so I'd assume her sister will be a similar body type. I generally preffer slim/slender women, so I'm questioning if it's worth going at all (yeah I know, I'm really superficial...just being honest about it). I don't want to go with this girl who is probably expecting a date if I am not attracted to her form the get go. The rest of the evening will be akward! Should I go along with my friends plan and take a chance or pass on the offer?
Geishawhelk Posted May 27, 2008 Posted May 27, 2008 Why don't you just ask him - "You're not setting me up on a date, are you? Because you know, right now, I'm just not interested in getting into anything with anyone... I'll be happy to come - just as long as nobody is under any illusion - I'll make up the foursome, but this is going nowhere...just to clarify....OK? I hope your sister-in-Law isn't under any impression of otherwise...." And see what he says... Then just go along, relax, enjoy the company, but having made things abundantly clear, nobody can blame you for anything....
Author D-D Posted May 27, 2008 Author Posted May 27, 2008 He knows I am single and looking. He is trying to set this up so that the sister in law and I can meet in person. I appreciate the suggestion, but If I say no I'm not interested I'm afraid that him or his wife may be offended.
Krytie TV Posted May 27, 2008 Posted May 27, 2008 It's all in your state of mind. If you go into it as a unique experience and as an opportunity to just have a fun social evening with some friends, you should be fine. I think you're putting too much pressure on this situation when you don't have to. Just go out looking to have fun. For everything else, let the cards fall where they may. No one is expecting a marriage proposal here.
Balthazar Posted May 27, 2008 Posted May 27, 2008 The sister will not necessarily have the same body type. I have known sisters who were quite different. And if she is a bit heavier, she may have a great rack DD!
theobserver Posted May 27, 2008 Posted May 27, 2008 Lifes too short. Even if you have these preferences of who you want your partner to be and if she doesn't fit it atleast give her a chance end of the day you might have a good evening and make a good friend in the process. Nobody is forcing you to sleep with her at the end of the day , or meet up again. As long as you're not a prick you can easily say your not feeling her and explain to your friend and his wife you don't feel a connection but thanks for the consideration in short, it's just 1 evening. I think people really need to open up, preference is great but don't block out the possibilties. I've had friends that hold onto their preference so religiously they ignore anything half decent that comes by. Women especially. I've known a female friend who will not date a man unless he had a certain type of job, money hair, height etc that she specifically looked for these men and it's never worked out. You'd think she'd break out and try different people but nope. I've had one friend who would turn down blind dates, or offers to go out to dinner by respectable men in hopes to nab a lawyer who had to be 6ft with a fair complexion etc. Luckily it took several break ups (Im surprised she managed to date several lawyers) to make her try men she probably never gave a chance. Ironically she's now been very happy with a kind and generous black man who's a doctor they've been together for 4 years now her longest relationship thus far. Who knew? If you would of described him to her 6 yrs ago I'm pretty sure she'd not be interested. I just think your friend and his wife are trying to broaden your horizon. You could ask for a picture but then it's impossible to decline the offer to go out without sounding like a big jerk because you find her unattractive. It's up to you at the end of the day and remember hell even if the the sister in law turns out to be to your liking she might not find you attractive anyway ever thought about that? Just to finish I wish more guys like myself would take appreciated to curvier chicks I can honestly say your missing out I personally couldn't live without my girls big boobs and bouncy butt and firm hips but hey different strokes... Good Luck
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