Konfused83 Posted May 27, 2008 Posted May 27, 2008 This is my first time posting here at this forum and I am looking for some advice. I have been dating a girl for a little over 7 months now and things have been a roller coaster. Let me start off from the beginning: We had known each other a little over a year before we started dating. Within the first moth of our relationship, one of her guy friends from Florida came for a visit. It went like this... The day before he came into town is when she told me about him, not his name or any particulars, just that he was visiting for a whole week. Well during that week, she never introduced us, told me I had nothing to worry about or anything. She put our relationship on hold with no more than a single phone call for the entire week. Now what am I supposed to think about that? When her friend left I confronted her about the dilemma i was having and she didnt understand. She said she didnt think it would be a problem. I let all this pass, after all it was a new relationship and I am one to try and work ANYTHING out. Well, since his "visit" he has sent her chocolate, wine, and a few presents. One of the presents being a Digital Camera well worth over $500! She keeps insisting that I dont have anything to worry about, but seriously, what I am supposed to think?! Just to add to my confusion, I found out the other day that she has been paying a cell phone bill for another guy! Not the "Florida Friend" but someone totally different. (and she complains to me about not having money!!) As i said above I am one to work out ANY problems I encounter, especially in a relationship, but this whole thing really confuses me. If anyone here can give me any kind of advice I would greatly appreciate it. Thank you so much for reading this and thank you in advance to any of you who are willing to give me your thoughts and advice. Regards, Konfused83
carhill Posted May 27, 2008 Posted May 27, 2008 Welcome Are you exclusive? Sounds to me like you have a bit of competition and your GF(?) seems to be promoting it. I'd merely tell her I want an exclusive relationship (explain what that means) and that I consider her receiving personal gifts from other single men whom I don't know to be inappropriate. If she would like our relationship to continue, that behavior needs to cease. This defines a reasonable boundary. I've been one of those male "friends" and the difference with my platonic friends is that I knew their H's/SO's and any gifts were neutral in tone and not expensive. Time for a relationship talk
Balthazar Posted May 27, 2008 Posted May 27, 2008 Ditch her, real quick like. And never put up with this kind of sh*t from anybody. CHeers,
ARDriver01 Posted May 27, 2008 Posted May 27, 2008 She's the type of girl that is addicted to male attention. She'll never be happy with one guy. You can't change this. It doen't matter how much money you have, how good looking you are, how understanding and loving. You'll never be capable of showing her a better life. She needs the attention, the sneeking around, lies and sex. You have to end it before you get serious. She doesn't love you, she doesn't know what it is, all she knows is when people want her and she likes to have lots of people wanting her at once. She uses people to boost her ego. She's a sociopath. Trust me. If you try to make it work you'll end up like I did for five years. Feel free to read my posts man. I feel for you, I really do, but Get Out!
D-Lish Posted May 27, 2008 Posted May 27, 2008 Everything you have described is bad news... I am surprised she isn't smart enough to manipulate Mr Florida to pay for her other "friend's" cell bill. A girl like this? Dump.
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