Kellicakes Posted May 27, 2008 Posted May 27, 2008 I have written a few other posts about my break up last week. None in this catagory though. I was crazy about him, we dated for a few months...then he started acting distant and then broke up with me saying i deserved better than him. Really has broken my heart badly. That's the short version. Over the weekend, he started texting me from the bar he was at in his home state, and sent me a picture of himself and said that he misses me. Haven't heard anything else from him since Friday night. It has really confused me as I am trying to maintain No contact and move on..I really want to hear from him again, and ity makes me wonder. Is he just confused? I seem to have taken a step back and my heart hurts so badly. It has only been a week sncw we broke up but it feels like eternity. How to move on???
0hpenelope Posted May 27, 2008 Posted May 27, 2008 That's going to happen that way for a while. When he contacts you, you're going to feel really screwed up because you miss him so much. My exes who don't get in touch with me are actually doing me a favor even though I miss them at that given moment. We can't control what our exes do. But we can control ourselves. When you're ready to, the next time he establishes communication like that? Try to have something lined up for you to do to keep yourself occupied. The less contact with him, the better off you are. If you can't do NC cold turkey, then I think you should gradually ease yourself out of his life by slowly responding to his text messages (if you respond) to no response at all. He sees how available you are to him and that's why he thinks you guys are ok. This is one perspective, though. I hope my response will encourage other posters to give you theirs as well. Good luck with things, ok? I hope you feel better. I'm rooting for your recovery!
arian_ma Posted May 27, 2008 Posted May 27, 2008 He is sending drunken lonely text messages. In my opinion you should ignore them. Someone who can't make up their mind and flies back and forth in a week is not mature enough to be in a long term relationship yet.
Author Kellicakes Posted May 27, 2008 Author Posted May 27, 2008 He is sending drunken lonely text messages. In my opinion you should ignore them. Someone who can't make up their mind and flies back and forth in a week is not mature enough to be in a long term relationship yet. I know I prob should ignore him, it's just so hard. And the break up is very recent. Guess a part of me hopes that there is still a chance. I go back and forth with myself about if I really even want to be with him at this point. His texts have done a number on me, that's for sure. Just don't know what he is thinking. If he did that just bc he was drinking, or if he actually misses me. Sigh......
Mahatma Posted May 28, 2008 Posted May 28, 2008 wow I know exactly where you are coming from. This girl broke up with me and just after I am finally over her and forgetting her, she texts me. The best thing you can do for yourself is just delete the text. Obviously, if you are like how I was at the time, you will have a serious urge to reply... don't do it though if you can.
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