sortofconfused Posted May 26, 2008 Posted May 26, 2008 To start off, thanks in advance for taking the time out to read this. Well, it all started about 10 days ago when i had my last day of classes. As i was saying goodbye to the classmates that i thought i wouldnt really see all that much anymore, i struck a conversation with this girl(very sexy and cool person all around) who i have lightly flirted with all semester long. But for the previous week or so, me and her had been engaging in some pretty heavy flirting and she seemed very interested in me, as i would constantly catch her staring at me and she would always go out of her way in order to make some sort of bodily contact with me, usually followed with some sort of sexual joke or something along those lines. well, while talking to her, she asked me for my phone number and preceded to text me in order to see if i gave her the real number. I thought this was very promising, she than went on to talk about how the two of us have to hang out and whatever. I told her it sounded like a plan. a few days go bye and i text her saying we should hang out, she responds almost immediately and seemed very excited i even texted her, she says she is totally down to chill. In reponse, i tell her to give me a call when she is free(a mistake in retrospect, i shouldve took charge of the situation and asked when she was free). We go on texting for a while and then we end it with her telling me to expect a call soon. a week goes bye and she doesnt call, so on advice from friends, i text her and playfully ask her whats up, but i get no response. I am very torn by this whole situation, not so much the prospect of never hanging out with her, as i have some other possible dates upcoming as well, but by the fact that we seemed to hit it off so well and she seemed so interested, only to be ignored and or forgotten about. what should i do, forget about it? why would she do that? am i crazy for letting this bother me, lol? is it too late for me too try and salvage the situation? it would look very bad on my part if i called again i think, right?(im thinking, since already tried to set something up, the ball is in her court and if she doesnt respon, too bad, bu it that right?) keep in mind, she asked for my number and then pretty much made e put her number in my phone. As well as the fact that she seemed to set on hanging out. thanks again for any input
Jilly Bean Posted May 26, 2008 Posted May 26, 2008 It's high time to move on, hon. PLENTY more out there. Go find one who will return your affections and don't waste the energy on trying to figure her out.
Author sortofconfused Posted May 26, 2008 Author Posted May 26, 2008 i have taken that mindset already for the most part, but i am just extremely confused as to the fact that it seemed to be going so well only to have taken such an inexplicable turn.
J2FT1 Posted May 26, 2008 Posted May 26, 2008 i have taken that mindset already for the most part, but i am just extremely confused as to the fact that it seemed to be going so well only to have taken such an inexplicable turn. Do you feel like you should have went for it when you had the chance? I have felt that way with some very hot chicks.
garnet Posted May 26, 2008 Posted May 26, 2008 I feel for you because the same thing happened to me. It is really hurtful and confusing when someone behaves this way. The best way to handle it is to realize that in all likelihood, it has nothing to do with you. There may be another guy in the picture, she may not have been as interested as you thought, or she could just be a flakey person. There could be many reasons. Try to not to make yourself crazy over it, and definitely don't contact her again.
Enema Posted May 26, 2008 Posted May 26, 2008 Don't hit her up with a general "How's it going". If you contact her again, do it with a definite plan... 'I'm going to X on Saturday night, do you want to come with?" I think the pussyness of your initial approach put her off... when you ask her out properly, there can be no mistaking her intent in the response.
Author sortofconfused Posted May 27, 2008 Author Posted May 27, 2008 ^their really was no "pussiness", as when we talked, we exchenged some very heavy sexual flirting which seemed to really turn her on, as she kept moving closer and closer and making more and more body contact. i dont hink the texts put her off, as she seemed very excited in her responses. j2ft1, now that i think about it, i do think i should have gone about it in another way, a bit more agressive, a call instead of texts. any more advice would be appreciated.
teamzissou00 Posted May 27, 2008 Posted May 27, 2008 Maybe her phone broke, or she went out of town unexpectedly for the holiday. Sounds pretty flakey if she just stopped responding, unless she starting dating someone else.
Author sortofconfused Posted May 27, 2008 Author Posted May 27, 2008 i agree it is very weird, and i have thought about a broken phone, but think it unlikely. but even if she did something along the lines you mentioned, dont you think she would respond to a text at least? i mean, it would be common courtesy.
SpikeyChick Posted May 27, 2008 Posted May 27, 2008 Try to not to make yourself crazy over it, and definitely don't contact her again. OK you need some wise words from ME -in fact two words sum up your "friend".. ATTENTION WH0RE.. She will be the first of many. These AWs are females ( i hesitate to glamorize them by calling them Women) who get an ego buzz by drawing men into their web and then playing with your emotions,or leaving you dangling. They are an embarrassment to the rest of womankind ,frankly. And do NOT contact her again or waste your manly time and energy on this twit.
Author sortofconfused Posted May 27, 2008 Author Posted May 27, 2008 sounds like some good advice so far, basically supplementing what i have already thought. more input would still be appreciated, maybe from her possible point of view.
J2FT1 Posted May 27, 2008 Posted May 27, 2008 OK you need some wise words from ME -in fact two words sum up your "friend".. ATTENTION WH0RE.. She will be the first of many. These AWs are females ( i hesitate to glamorize them by calling them Women) who get an ego buzz by drawing men into their web and then playing with your emotions,or leaving you dangling. They are an embarrassment to the rest of womankind ,frankly. And do NOT contact her again or waste your manly time and energy on this twit. God, you seriously have some of the best posts that I read, everything that you say makes a lot of sense. I also love the way you use science to explain emotions and whatnot, and I agree with most, if not all, things you say! One question. A little background on yourself would be nice, just so I can paint a better picture. To OP: Yes, if you are sensing that they like to mess around with you, do the same to them. A little story. There used to be a girl at my summer job always flirting with me, even though she had a boyfriend. I knew that she was the "attention whore" type so I decided to take advantage of it. One day I asked for a hug and for some reason, my hands felt everything she had to offer. I did that for the next week. She went looking for trouble and found it. After that our relationship was very casual.
Author sortofconfused Posted May 27, 2008 Author Posted May 27, 2008 hmmmm, so the general consensus is that i just forget about it? dont try to respond again? what if she contacts me sometime ands wants to hang out? do i return the favor or do i oblige? i understand the attention whore aspect, but she seemed so nice and genuine. what can i say though? thats girls for you, huh?
SpikeyChick Posted May 27, 2008 Posted May 27, 2008 [quote=sortofconfused;1675654 I understand the attention whore aspect, but she seemed so nice and genuine. what can i say though? thats girls for you, huh? Of course she seemed "so nice and genuine", confidence tricksters always present as " the salt of the earth" or "the real deal"... THey must do so to draw you into striking range. These femmes understand how to use "a spoonful of honey.." Be grateful that you did not go any further with her - you dodged a bullet this time. Beware of the "sweet, nice and demure ladies." Instead look for signs of " authenticity " ..and do not ever confuse the wrapping with the contents.
Balthazar Posted May 27, 2008 Posted May 27, 2008 A woman asking for your number is not necessarily a good thing. Can you imagine how many other guys she does this with? Furthermore, she is an attractive and sexy lady in college, so she is probably getting more attention than she can effectively deal with. Finally, never get into that whole "sms-texting" cycle with women. Keep your contact direct (voice only).
Trialbyfire Posted May 27, 2008 Posted May 27, 2008 sortofconfused, if a woman is giving you this many signals, ask her out on the spot. She's been forced to be the aggressor over and over again, until you tentatively asked about her free time via text. Take charge next time. Women love an alpha.
Author sortofconfused Posted May 27, 2008 Author Posted May 27, 2008 thanks for all the advice everybody, it has really driven the point home to me. I will forget about her and move on. Also, to the post above me, the fact i didnt take charge immediately was a thing i regretted instantly and i will use this as a learning experience to never do that again.
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