method Posted May 26, 2008 Posted May 26, 2008 my girlfriend of 3 years broke up with me a month ago. we have been in contact about every 2 or 3 days and it was always her to make the contact. anyway we had a meeting planned to go to the cinema and her favourite restaurant. we were talking on msn last night for a good 4 hours last night about general things and what we have been doing. the way it was going strongly suggested that we were getting back together when we met up for the cinema. then it happened, i let slip that i had never been tested for an std. the first week we were together she asked me and i said i have been tested ( we were both naked in bed, what would any guy do) so she believed me and i felt awful after but knew i couldnt tell her as she would have dumped me there and then. i dont really sleep around but had unprotected sex with 2 girls who said they were ok. anyway last night she found out so i called her and she said shes so disappointed in me and i feel so bad with myself right now. she said she was going to bed and will sleep on it and hung up. i was so sure we would get back together and now she hates me even more than when we broke up. i spoke to her on msn this morning and said i am sorry and she said its a bit late now. i asked if she slept well and she said " i actually did for once because i was sick of not being able to sleep or concentrate and think straight, but now i can" this sounds to me like shes found her reason to not be with me. does anyone have advice. she thinks a lot about STD's and its important to be checked, im just now realising it. everything was going so well until i dropped my foot in it. :-(
wowIlose Posted May 26, 2008 Posted May 26, 2008 First of all go get tested, second yes you messed up royally.. you can't expect her to want you back when you talk about subjects like STDs and who knows what else. Your supposed to keep it light and fluffy and fun, very casual.. kind of like a first date, but some how you ended up talking about STDs, what the hell dude? You've associated yourself with something very negative and at this point I can't see you turning this around at all. Start moving on, get tested, if your clean let her know so shes not worrying (she should get her own tests done). Don't beg, plead, cry.. don't over apologize, if you've done it once then leave it there. Good luck.
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