Krytie TV Posted May 27, 2008 Posted May 27, 2008 All I can say is that I've never gone a month into a new relationship without having had sex... ever. I suppose some think a month isn't long enough, but I can't relate to that concept.
Art_Critic Posted May 27, 2008 Posted May 27, 2008 IMO it's still early days. Not everyone commits emotionally after one month, and not everyone likes phones. If you like this guy, give him a chance, but take it easy and try not to be disappointed if it doesn't pan out. I'm in agreement with Spookie... The H isn't the full reason.. he might just be pulling back for the multitude of reasons people pull back. PG.. just give him some space and let him come to you.. He has communicated good things with you so for now go with that.. You are most likely looking at everything under a microscope right now and it is driving your insecurity.
Lovelybird Posted May 28, 2008 Posted May 28, 2008 Is one month really that soon? I feel that is pretty average. Anyway, he knows I want to go slow as I told him as much on our third date. I think think best way for me to deal with this situation is just have fun, and if something bothers me, to communicate my feelings to him. Wow, just like an adult would do! haha. what would an adult do? having sex without commitment, and call it fun even when women are hurt by that? wow, nowaday's concept of 'adult' really have new meanings. and you so easily buy into that when you have sex with a man, and this man won't treat you right (commitment, respect, care), you would feel something in you was taken away. sex without commitment will not add into your life, but will take away something really you should cherish: such as how you look at yourself. and how you look at yourself in turn will affect how you pick guys, what kind of guys you will pick
Author pandagirl Posted May 28, 2008 Author Posted May 28, 2008 I You are most likely looking at everything under a microscope right now and it is driving your insecurity. FYI, I'm totally in therapy because of this inclination! As for sex. I live in NYC. Things move fast here.
Lovelybird Posted May 28, 2008 Posted May 28, 2008 FYI, I'm totally in therapy because of this inclination! As for sex. I live in NYC. Things move fast here. Ok, I see, sounds like you don't have many choices left because that is what everyone else do. but you still do have choice. when you can freely choose (not driven by needy or lack or what others do), you will rise to a higher horizon, you will find good quality men and better dating life. you don't have to be like bees without head (many others do), bump to all wrong directions. that is desperate life Stay away from sex with men who you don't know well, and stay away from what others say, you would clearly see things, and have healthier mentality. depression comes from you do things against your consience. there are too many voices that don't contribute good valuable things into your life, those voices just drag you into pit after pit, please listen to the right voice in you. I know what a stressful world would be if I listen to what others say, some people would say thing suit their own selfish purpose even that means hurt you, some people downright bitter and want others to be bitter like them, some people like to see others fall into pits, some people are just same confused.....If I don't have God's voice in me, I don't know what I would become. God gives me advices and insight about things, and keep me in peace. choose right voice to listen
bella07 Posted May 28, 2008 Posted May 28, 2008 It's only been a month. Take your time with it all, busy yourself with other things and don't give him too much too soon. Men love what they can't have and if you're too available and too eager in this initial period they will lose interest.
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