ShyguyRod Posted May 26, 2008 Posted May 26, 2008 I had been seeing a girl for about 2 months. I met her through my friend, she was his girlfriend's best friend. She drove me home when she was designated driver one night and suggested that we should hang out some time. We went and saw a movie and then I just took her home because I work early. I won't make this a long story because it is about the break up. She was pretty full on with me but when she told me she wanted to just be friends she just cut off every connection to me. She had said she wanted to be in a relationship and that she liked me 'so much' and so when she dumped me it seemed the complete opposite. She said things like 'You are a really great friend and I would like you to be my best guy friend.' I think she was just saying this crap to be nice. She doesn't make an effort to talk to me at all, so much for a best friend ey? I messaged her the other night saying that I missed her and she replied 'same:)'. Why would she do that? it is so very clear that she doesn't, otherwise she would make an effort to talk to me, right?
roghornio Posted May 26, 2008 Posted May 26, 2008 Welcome to the wonderful world of girls minds. Iv’e heard that a few times in my time… and I can tell you I still don’t have a clue what it means, especially if everything has been going well. My guess is it’s a nice way of letting you down gently?
Author ShyguyRod Posted May 27, 2008 Author Posted May 27, 2008 Haha yeah you are so right, can't wait until someone works out the female mind!
Bright Shadow Posted May 27, 2008 Posted May 27, 2008 You should worry less about the female mind. Try this: http://www.nomoremrniceguy.com/forums/showthread.php?t=5544
roghornio Posted May 27, 2008 Posted May 27, 2008 You should worry less about the female mind. Try this: http://www.nomoremrniceguy.com/forums/showthread.php?t=5544 That was all quite interesting! Some interesting insightws in other posts on that forum too.
Author ShyguyRod Posted May 29, 2008 Author Posted May 29, 2008 argh she contacted me last night, and I replied! slap on the wrist for me. That won't be happening again.
roghornio Posted May 29, 2008 Posted May 29, 2008 Dont beat yourself up. So long as you played it cool your alright... no tears i hope
Author ShyguyRod Posted June 1, 2008 Author Posted June 1, 2008 haha no I won't ever show her that much emotion. She was out drunk and so she contacted me! isn't that my job?! haha
ozira Posted June 1, 2008 Posted June 1, 2008 let her go, talk is cheap. If she only wants you when she is drunk she is full of s*it. Dont waste any more energy on working her out, there is nothing to work out. Put your energy into doing something for yourself. Dont be easy pray. It hurts too much. Love Ozira
Author ShyguyRod Posted June 2, 2008 Author Posted June 2, 2008 let her go, talk is cheap. If she only wants you when she is drunk she is full of s*it. Dont waste any more energy on working her out, there is nothing to work out. Put your energy into doing something for yourself. Dont be easy pray. It hurts too much. Love Ozira Thanks Ozira I will definitely not let her have me.
systemic7 Posted June 2, 2008 Posted June 2, 2008 Sadly, don't take the "friends" thing too seriously. For some, there is a true commitment and intent there. For others, it's a gracious way of ending the relationship. Personally, can't fault the reasoning, but just don't take it so literal, particularly in this case.
Bright Shadow Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 The suggestion "Let's just be friends" means she doesn't see you as boyfriend material. There's even an acronym for it. Try looking up LJBF on Google.
roghornio Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 Sadly, don't take the "friends" thing too seriously. For some, there is a true commitment and intent there. For others, it's a gracious way of ending the relationship. Personally, can't fault the reasoning, but just don't take it so literal, particularly in this case. Is a funny one. I have one ex who we did the friends with thing for a couple years.. deep down i knew i still had feelings for her which is why i guess i kept it up (plus the odd drunken sex and kiss)... I had another ex who i did the dumping with and who wanted to remian friends... now way i ran a mile. And finally the last ex who we said would remain friends... kind of happened for a couple months in that we kepot up contact and met up several times... which has dissolved into nothing (mainly because i came to my senses). Aside from these key ones, there have been loads of little flings and dating... usually ends up with one or the other saide bringing up the horrible LJBFs... From all my experiences - i;d say don't bother. Really is not worth the hassle... End of the line is if they dumped you and you want to be friends then you still have hope... Girls tend to want to be friends (unless your a creepy) cause it means they have the benefits of a boyfriend without the sex... they will have you round their finger. Don't walk ... RUN!!!
Author ShyguyRod Posted June 7, 2008 Author Posted June 7, 2008 Sadly, don't take the "friends" thing too seriously. For some, there is a true commitment and intent there. For others, it's a gracious way of ending the relationship. Personally, can't fault the reasoning, but just don't take it so literal, particularly in this case. The suggestion "Let's just be friends" means she doesn't see you as boyfriend material. There's even an acronym for it. Try looking up LJBF on Google. Is a funny one. I have one ex who we did the friends with thing for a couple years.. deep down i knew i still had feelings for her which is why i guess i kept it up (plus the odd drunken sex and kiss)... I had another ex who i did the dumping with and who wanted to remian friends... now way i ran a mile. And finally the last ex who we said would remain friends... kind of happened for a couple months in that we kepot up contact and met up several times... which has dissolved into nothing (mainly because i came to my senses). Aside from these key ones, there have been loads of little flings and dating... usually ends up with one or the other saide bringing up the horrible LJBFs... From all my experiences - i;d say don't bother. Really is not worth the hassle... End of the line is if they dumped you and you want to be friends then you still have hope... Girls tend to want to be friends (unless your a creepy) cause it means they have the benefits of a boyfriend without the sex... they will have you round their finger. Don't walk ... RUN!!! Thanks, I'm not going to talk to her at all now. Only problem is my friends have invited me out to tea at the same place that she works and I know she is working when we are having tea. What do I do?! I can't be there with her there and I can't just ditch my friends.
Bright Shadow Posted June 7, 2008 Posted June 7, 2008 Thanks, I'm not going to talk to her at all now. Only problem is my friends have invited me out to tea at the same place that she works and I know she is working when we are having tea. What do I do?! I can't be there with her there and I can't just ditch my friends. Simple. Don't ditch your friends. Now she's just a girl who works there. If your friends ask just tell them that. Go. It will do you good.
Author ShyguyRod Posted June 13, 2008 Author Posted June 13, 2008 well I went, she didn't talk to me and I don't think she even looked at me. I don't remember much of the night after that. She keeps sending me text messages, and I keep replying.
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