Lishy Posted May 31, 2008 Posted May 31, 2008 Going to end it today. I dont think that is what you want though!
Author onmyownagain Posted May 31, 2008 Author Posted May 31, 2008 I dont think that is what you want though! I have no business having feelings for her, Doesn't matter what I want.
White Flower Posted May 31, 2008 Posted May 31, 2008 What exactly does cyber sex entail? How do you know if either one of you is faking it? Is it partly the thrill that it isn't totally real, and therefore not totally wrong? Can you explain? I surmise that if she wants to meet up it is definitely happening for her.
OWoman Posted May 31, 2008 Posted May 31, 2008 I surmise that if she wants to meet up it is definitely happening for her. Why risk a sure thing? If it's happening for her, why risk that by meeting up?
White Flower Posted May 31, 2008 Posted May 31, 2008 Why risk a sure thing? If it's happening for her, why risk that by meeting up? I was only clarifying what pentacle asked with regard to the other partner faking it online. I don't think they should have met. Now it's messy and it will be harder than he thinks to end it. Pentacle's post: What exactly does cyber sex entail? How do you know if either one of you is faking it? Is it partly the thrill that it isn't totally real, and therefore not totally wrong? Can you explain?
White Flower Posted May 31, 2008 Posted May 31, 2008 pentacle, do you think that cyber sex is ok as long as one never meets and shares bodily fluids? I'm just curious. I think that is why so many people, even MPs, partake in cyber sex.
OWoman Posted May 31, 2008 Posted May 31, 2008 pentacle, do you think that cyber sex is ok as long as one never meets and shares bodily fluids? I'm just curious. I think that is why so many people, even MPs, partake in cyber sex. Some people feel it's OK because it's not with a person, but a persona. A bit like buying genitalia for your Second Life avatar and having sex with someone's table.
Author onmyownagain Posted June 1, 2008 Author Posted June 1, 2008 Met up and have just finished it with her, she is not happy but it is for the best. Feel a lot better now, at least morally.
Lookingforward Posted June 1, 2008 Posted June 1, 2008 Some people feel it's OK because it's not with a person, but a persona. A bit like buying genitalia for your Second Life avatar and having sex with someone's table. rolling around the floor laughing my fool head off (poor guys with their bought "attachments" that never work anyway)
pentacle Posted June 6, 2008 Posted June 6, 2008 pentacle, do you think that cyber sex is ok as long as one never meets and shares bodily fluids? I'm just curious. I think that is why so many people, even MPs, partake in cyber sex. WF - hmm, I don't know really. Trying to think it through logically, I guess it's like masturbation with pornographic pictures/ film or an erotic book, it is not real sex as such. So in that way, I can see that it may be possible to think there is no issue. Although I would wonder at an excessive need for detached masturbation. Except there is someone else at the other end pulling your strings live and it is really a stranger who is presenting an image of themselves that they want you to see, not a real person. The issue is the potential to produce feelings that have not been induced by response to a person in Real Life, especially as this cyber sex is hidden, private, secret etc all the conditions you'd find in an affair, all the conditions that keep an affair exciting and obsessive. There are certainly cases of individuals using Second Life that meet others, have 2nd Life relationships, 2nd Life sex and then feel they understand that person so well that they have to go and investigate the person in Real Life. I guess that my concern is the degree of fanstasy, illusion and deception involved between individuals that people think are real relationships. If you are reaching out for a cyber relationship, if you are willing to invest a lot of time on a cyber relationship, if you think that the sex was great in the cyber relationship what does that say about your real life world? And then the attempt to replicate cyber world in the real world seems to be building a RL fantasy relationship which seems to me to be a recipe for a problematic situation especially when there are spouses involved. I think that actually meeting the woman after writing on this forum about the situation and acknowledging the issue, and then meeting up again in person to end it all suggests that the OP could find it problematic leaving this alone.
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