superm0nkey Posted May 26, 2008 Posted May 26, 2008 This might be kind of a weird question... but I figured I'd ask anyway. It's been about seven or eight months now since I split with my ex and life is pretty different now. I'm about three weeks out from a couple of months backpacking in South East Asia and I've accepted a job overseas and that's going to take me places I never imagined. The funny thing is... it doesn't hurt anymore. I've never really gone through the process of dealing with a broken heart before so I have no basis for comparison, but in some weird way I actually miss the pain. It literally feels like something is missing - sounds kind of screwed up huh. Is this normal?
CanisLatrans Posted May 26, 2008 Posted May 26, 2008 I’ve read in psychology books that in some sense people can become addicted to negative emotions. In essence these self-defeating emotions can be chemically addictive, similar to people who become addicted to cutting themselves. Also, if emotional distress has been a part of your daily routine for a long period of time, and all of a sudden it’s removed, that could feel like an awkward change in lifestyle. The question I would ask myself is “have I just been distracted long enough not to notice how much it hurts?” Or, “have I legitimately recovered?” I would be honest in addressing those questions less the problem manifest itself in subconscious ways.
kizik Posted May 26, 2008 Posted May 26, 2008 MIKE (starting to cry) Then why won't she call...? ROB Because you left, man. She's got her own world to deal with in New York. She was a sweet girl but **** her. You gotta move on. You gotta let go of the past. The future is so beautiful. Every day is so sunny out here. It's like Manifest Destiny man. I mean, we made it. What's past is prologue. That which does not kill us makes us stronger. All that ****. You'll get over it. MIKE How did you get over it? I mean how long 'til it stopped hurting? ROB Sometimes is still hurts. You know how it is, man. I mean, each day you think about it less and less. And then one day you wake up and you don't think of it at all, and you almost miss that feeling. It's kinda weird. You miss the pain because it was part of your life for so long. And the, boom, something reminds you of her, and you just smile that bittersweet smile. We see that Mike has been GNAWING AWAY at Rob's pepperoni and semolina as he listens intently. MIKE You miss the pain? ROB ... for the same reason you miss her. You lived with it so long. MIKE Wow. (finishing the loaf) You wanna grab a bite? ROB (smiling) Sure. He helps Mike up. ROB By the way, the guys back home said she put on some weight. MIKE (smiling) You always know the right thing to say. -Swingers
foxh1234 Posted May 27, 2008 Posted May 27, 2008 MIKE (starting to cry) Then why won't she call...? ROB Because you left, man. She's got her own world to deal with in New York. She was a sweet girl but **** her. You gotta move on. You gotta let go of the past. The future is so beautiful. Every day is so sunny out here. It's like Manifest Destiny man. I mean, we made it. What's past is prologue. That which does not kill us makes us stronger. All that ****. You'll get over it. MIKE How did you get over it? I mean how long 'til it stopped hurting? ROB Sometimes is still hurts. You know how it is, man. I mean, each day you think about it less and less. And then one day you wake up and you don't think of it at all, and you almost miss that feeling. It's kinda weird. You miss the pain because it was part of your life for so long. And the, boom, something reminds you of her, and you just smile that bittersweet smile. We see that Mike has been GNAWING AWAY at Rob's pepperoni and semolina as he listens intently. MIKE You miss the pain? ROB ... for the same reason you miss her. You lived with it so long. MIKE Wow. (finishing the loaf) You wanna grab a bite? ROB (smiling) Sure. He helps Mike up. ROB By the way, the guys back home said she put on some weight. MIKE (smiling) You always know the right thing to say. -Swingers What a movie man, a true break up classic. I have watched it 30 times in the last 2 months, no sh*t. It was and will be one of my favorite movies forever. Your so money baby!!
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