Author SpikeyChick Posted May 26, 2008 Author Posted May 26, 2008 I have been in a relationship myself with someone suffering from Borderline personality disorder and it was very hard making it work wich it didnt in the end. Women with this disorder are just crazy vampires who suck the life out of their SOs - I know a couple who are in this predicament. She is a fine 'Baitch' and he is trying to "make it work" with little success. She endlessly sabotages the relationship but he is too smitten to dump her. Nutso..
muse82 Posted May 26, 2008 Posted May 26, 2008 Women with this disorder are just crazy vampires who suck the life out of their SOs - I know a couple who are in this predicament. She is a fine 'Baitch' and he is trying to "make it work" with little success. She endlessly sabotages the relationship but he is too smitten to dump her. Nutso.. Yeah they are. My RS lasted only a month.Within the first week she had already planned our weeding with date and who is invited etc..At first i thougt that it was sweet and innocent but she really meant it. One moment she was overexited the next deep depressed and crying hysterical. I broke up with her telling her i couldnt handle a RS with someone like her.She then told me that i was crazy and that she had cut off her family for me..giving me alot of guilt.Her family didnt believe her when she said that she had found her "soulmate" because she has said that numerous times and she then cut them of.Telling me "look what i did for you" I have never in my life been verbally and mentally shot down in that way.The weird thing about this is that my ex from a year ago whom i love deeply have been involved with the pshyco ex's former boyfriend.He is almost like her with mood swings and all that.Me and my ex from a year ago lets call her Mai are very subtle and quite and we both want a stable life because we are both depressed at times.Funny how things turn out..
MJR Posted May 26, 2008 Posted May 26, 2008 I think I've got this one hands down. An ex of mine often stopped by my place after work before heading home because I was just around the corner. One day she stops by and she's in tears. Of course, I'm concerned and asked what happened. She told me one of her guy friends committed suicide by taking a shotgun to himself. Naturally, I'm completely stunned by this and I do my best to be comforting, supportive, etc. We talk about it more and after a while I realize I knew the guy. Not very well, but we had some mutual friends and we've crossed paths a lot in the past. So when she started talking about the wake I told her I wanted to go. She turned to me and said, "That's not such a good idea". When I asked why, she point blank looked at me and said, "You're the reason he's dead". She then went on to tell me that he killed himself because she liked me too much (I guess he had a thing for her), and that if I wasn't so likeable she would have spent more time with him instead of all of her time with me, thus, this all would have been avoided. She made it all sound as if I could have saved a life if only I was more of a prick to her. What's even more disturbing was the next day when she looked me in the eye and flat out denied that she had ever said such a thing and called ME crazy.
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted May 26, 2008 Posted May 26, 2008 Wow, MJR, that's absolutely crazy! Like, bats*** crazy. I hope you don't run into her anymore.
Lishy Posted May 26, 2008 Posted May 26, 2008 My ex (who was BPD) sent the police to my door telling them he had just killed me and was about to kill himself - He did that because I changed my phone number so he could not abuse me anymore!! They were booting my door down at midnight! Oh and I had our son at home at the time! Nice! People with BPD are dangerous and vile and they simply cannot help it!
Author SpikeyChick Posted May 26, 2008 Author Posted May 26, 2008 People with BPD are dangerous and vile and they simply cannot help it! Yes they can. They are the masters of disguise and manipulation in the early stages of the relationship. This is predominantly a female disorder guys- watch out for highly sexualized behavior or "sex" talk VERY early, a bad history of her relationships with men, early abuse in her childhood, "daddy" issues, alcohol or cocaine use , extremely sweet and demure behavior in the first few weeks and then a switch to baitch behavior....BPD women have NO scruples and they use sex as their tool of POWER not of mutual pleasure. ( I am thinking that some of you guys are thinking that this sounds just like "my Ex" ! Ha ha !)
Lishy Posted May 26, 2008 Posted May 26, 2008 They all behave that way because that is part of the illness! They cannot switch it off even when they know it is wrong!
Trialbyfire Posted May 27, 2008 Posted May 27, 2008 I married a guy with undiagnosed NPD. Big mistake! It's one thing to enter a relationship with someone who is diagnosed and tells you, so you know to expect certain behaviours and try not to take it personally. It's a whole 'nother ballgame when he doesn't even know about it so he can't work or offset his own behaviours and you get blindsided by it.
Author SpikeyChick Posted May 27, 2008 Author Posted May 27, 2008 They all behave that way because that is part of the illness! They cannot switch it off even when they know it is wrong!\ NO so. The evidential records say otherwise ..You are making excuses for evil people acting badly - these critters hold up a carefully crafted facade for a few weeks until their target is snared with sex and affection. Then slowly, the facade is lowered and replaced with the most cruel psych abuse of their trusting victim . THese BPD women are pure evil. NO man deserves that. The male analogue is NPD - no woman deserves to be connected with one of those monsters either. Anyone who have had the pure misfortune of being in a relationship with either one of these vampires will suffer long after the relationship has spiralled down into the depths of pain and despair. These disorders of abuse are neatly categorized in AXIS II Cluster B of DSM 4. Not happy reading, but the info may save some of you from throwing yourself into a volcano with one of these human mistakes.
Lishy Posted May 27, 2008 Posted May 27, 2008 So do you think that the reason people act like this because of a mental illness or because they are evil? Do you believe they are evil and that is why they got a BPD or do you believe the illness causes them to be evil?
Gold Pile Posted May 27, 2008 Posted May 27, 2008 When I was 30 I charmed a beautiful, 25 yr old, mildly retarded girl. She worked at a retail dept store. I made a point of talking to her every time I was there. I arranged for a "leave work early" date. Her parents always dropped her off and picked her up after work. We went to the movies and a quick lunch. Then I dropped her off in front of the store 15 minutes B4 her folks arrived. The next day she called me to say she was falling for me. I wanted a roll in the hay with her but nothing more. Ultimately I decided the Ole hump and dump or even the kinder hump and disappear methods would be too harsh on this very naive, very good hearted girl. The next day I dropped by the store and told her I was going overseas and that she deserved better than me anyway. You see GP can be a decent fella, I did the right thing. Her Dad beat me up in the parking-lot. I guess she blabbed about our date.
Jilly Bean Posted May 27, 2008 Posted May 27, 2008 Yes. Two BF's ago - he was clinically depressed and refused treatment. Was a total drama, roller-coaster. Which was fine for the time, as I was into it, and he was HOTTER than hell, but meh - too much work!
underpants Posted May 27, 2008 Posted May 27, 2008 \ NO so. The evidential records say otherwise ..You are making excuses for evil people acting badly - these critters hold up a carefully crafted facade for a few weeks until their target is snared with sex and affection. Then slowly, the facade is lowered and replaced with the most cruel psych abuse of their trusting victim . THese BPD women are pure evil. NO man deserves that. The male analogue is NPD - no woman deserves to be connected with one of those monsters either. Anyone who have had the pure misfortune of being in a relationship with either one of these vampires will suffer long after the relationship has spiralled down into the depths of pain and despair. These disorders of abuse are neatly categorized in AXIS II Cluster B of DSM 4. Not happy reading, but the info may save some of you from throwing yourself into a volcano with one of these human mistakes. Unfortunately and sadly, I agree to an extent. There is a keen level of knowing. Very calculating and hurtful then dumbfounded. A very scary thing. Yes, classic abuse cycle. So do you think that the reason people act like this because of a mental illness or because they are evil? Do you believe they are evil and that is why they got a BPD or do you believe the illness causes them to be evil? Not so much evil as just a very bitter flavor of human. I think you spent too long in the relationship and you are still washing it off. From my little experience it is hell to rid yourself of a person with this. They HAVE to keep you in their life at any cost. It is a really terrible thing to deal with and it is sad to know it is out there. You wouldn't know unless you personally have gotten run over by it. Lish, I have no doubt you were. Very scary. It is just (for whatever reason) not right and not good. That is all the reason you need to distance yourself. Time and distance that is the only cure for knowing such a twisted soul. Whatever the origins of which manifested itself within.
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