Got a Second Chance But She Seems Uncertain - What Do I Do Next???

[Laszlo Kovacs]

Thank you for your advice. It is greatly appreciated. I think I will definitely try my best to be patient with her because I don't want to contact her too soon and by doing so make it seem like I am forcing her into a decision or something.

[vivrantflo]

You want to come across as having grown and capable of being on your own and just fine without her (and hopefully this is the case). You want her to know that you WANT her but do not NEED her.

 

 

Couldn't have said it better myself...

 

I know it's killing you, but patience is what you need to go on right now. Yes, I guarantee she is interested in that other guy. So by you showing the confidence of wanting her, but not needing will make you look even more attractive!

 

All I can say is expect the worst, but hope for the best. Try not to have any expectations.

[Laszlo Kovacs]

It has now been almost two weeks since we had our conversation and she still has not contacted me in any way. To be fair, she did move last weekend and this weekend she is getting ready to head to Vermont, but she still could have picked up a phone and let me know what is going on.

 

This is terrible. The way it was left it seemed like everything was going to be okay, but she just needed a little time to deal with moving and things going on with her family. Now, it's been almost two weeks and I have heard absolutely nothing. I can't help but feel like her silence is saying everything...that she doesn't know what she wants, or that it's all over. She said that she would call, so why doesn't she just call and let me know instead of keeping me hanging? If she really card about me as much as she said she does, then wouldn't she at least give me the respect of a phone call no matter what?

 

At this point I just want to know what is going on, but at the same time I don't want to seem like I am forcing her by doing something like calling or sending an email.

 

I know everyone is telling me to be patient, but it it possible that may backfire somehow? Could I just send a friendly "hey, how are you? hope everything is going well" email that doesn't mention anything about the conversation or our relationship as a way to subtely say "I want to know what's going on" or would that backfire?

 

I don't know what to do...