TMichaels Posted May 26, 2008 Posted May 26, 2008 firstmateal, I understand you're hurting and that you think that *if* distance was the reason for the breakup, *getting rid* of the distance will make things all better again, in reality, that may or may not be the case. I also understand the importance of not spending the rest of your life thinking "what if." If I were you, I would consider going to Kansas for next spring IF attending that SCHOOL was the reason to move first and foremost, or at the very least, transferring to Kansas State won't penalize your degree or course of study in any way. If you make the move/transfer solely for this guy and the relationship isn't re-kindled, you not only will be as miserable as you are now, you'll be thousands of miles from friends and family, have spent thousands of dollars on a move possibly for a degree program less advantageous or valuable, and paying out-state tuition for the privilege to boot. If you can honestly say to yourself that the investments/risks you'd have to take would be worth it, EVEN IF you do so only to find there's no spark in your relationship left, then go for it. Just keep in mind, however, there's a lot of truth in the old adage: "You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make him drink." Best, TMichaels
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