Mark UK Posted May 28, 2008 Posted May 28, 2008 Further update - Things are as bad as they can be in fact everything is totally finished and she doesn't even want to be friends any more. Although I never strictly stuck to the no contact rule (and how I wish I had) I did keep contact minimal and she was actually calling and texting me mostly. Sunday night just gone i'm in bed and I get a call from her at 4.30am and she's with a group of friends and very drunk and she says she's calling to see how I am and not to worry about her as she has her (male) friend Ashton to look after her. She doesn't say it nasty but to me it's clear she is just trying to make me jealous. I get off the phone quickly and to my credit without saying anything bad and still remaining polite. She calls back and I turn my phone off and just lay in bed feeling sick and imagining her doing the worst with this guy. I turn my phone on next day about 11am and she phones almost immediately so she had probably been trying a while and she says sorry for last night and that she hoped she never said nothing bad but she couldn't remember. She said the guy she was with was only a friend and she said she'd only kissed him and not slept with him. I go away and this eats me up and I wrongly send a text and I say a lot of bad things most of it was true but it doesn't do any good to say it. She texts and says she won't see me again now but I call and say sorry and tell her how hurt I am and how I haven't been able to eat and sleep and I miss and love her so much and want to see her. I should never have done this and if anyone else is going through a break up you must never do this either because it's game over after that. At the time she said she understood why I'd said what I had and it was ok and she'd still see me this weekend and she'd call me later to say hi if I liked and I said great. We actually part on good terms both saying nice things. She didn't call so I sent a nice text and tried to call once but no answer. I left it at that. Next evening after still hearing nothing I call and she answers and now she's completely cold to me and says she can't talk as she's with someone I ask if they are male or female and she says does it matter and puts phone down. I tried to call her this very afternoon and she informs me she can't see me this weekend as she is spending every minute with her new boyfriend and it wouldn't be fair to him cause he knows i'm coming up and doesn't want her to see me. She only met him last Friday night 3 days after she broke up with me and went out for a first date Monday night which explains why she didn't call me as she promised. She is actually at this guy's house right now waiting for him to come home from work and she admitted she's already slept with him. I am broken and ask how can she move on so quick and if I ever meant anything to her and she says I did and she won't forget me but she stopped loving me 2 weeks ago and it was easy to move on but I couldn't cause I was still in love with her. She's even deleted my number and doesn't think we should ever speak again. I know I should have followed the rules advocated on here by MC5 and everyone else and although I wouldn't have won her back I could have kept my dignity which I no longer feel I have. I can have no closure now and feel hurt and betrayed and shocked at how someone who said they loved you can be so cruel and so cold. Do people ever learn to trust again? I fear i'm damaged goods now.
jadedone Posted May 28, 2008 Posted May 28, 2008 If it's any consolation, the new BF is definitely not going to last long.
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