OWoman Posted May 28, 2008 Posted May 28, 2008 If OW calls during this NC phase how honest should I be with OW? If she wants closure, and is looking to you to provide that, why not invite her to ask her questions in the presence of your W - a three-way conversation? She can ask what she wants, and you'll have both of them there to "keep you honest" (since honesty is your concern) and your W will get to see for herself what went down, rather than relying on your reporting of it. But, ultimately, her real closure will come from herself.
MarriedLife Posted May 29, 2008 Posted May 29, 2008 2 weeks of NC and counting. No calls from OW. My W has her good days and bad days and I'll just be there for her. We continue to break routines, date, communicate. We will be finding a good mc. I know those sessions will be tough because I'm going to be honest about how I currently feel about being married. But through my ACTIONS I will work on our relationship and as I said my goal is to reconnect with her.
whichwayisup Posted May 29, 2008 Posted May 29, 2008 That's great! OK, going on 2 weeks of NC, it really is pointless to have ANY type of conversation with the OW if she contacts you. She KNOWS what's what and it's best to shut the door and leave it at that. You do NOT owe her anything seeing as you've both done the NC thing and broken it, so in the long run, there's no point in reacting at all if she contacts you. Best way is letting the silence speak for itself, she's a smart woman and can figure out what that means. You two do not need 'another goodbye' or a 'talk.' Glad to hear things are going well with your wife, though during her rough days, just reaffirm your love and affection for her. Be patient, be loving and respect her.
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