replicator Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 I had inner peace when I had my ex. I felt balance, poise, and composure over any obstacle I faced. Whatever went wrong, I had her to make me feel better when things didn't go my way. I'm in the same boat as you, trying to find that peace of mind while being single. I'm finding it easier with each day, to focus on yourself and set concrete, definitive goals. Having a purpose gives you something to aim for. As you start to realize your goals, you become more confident and feel in control over your environment. I think it is key to believe that you can change the world around you, and you aren't just reacting to things around you. I had this state of mind before, so I know I can get it again. Sure, it would be great to find love again, but until then... Think about what matters to you most. Set some concrete goals and a plan of action. Execute.
Gordon's Right Posted June 10, 2008 Posted June 10, 2008 It sounds like you were living your life for a woman. Did you really love her, or was she just some void filler? You lost yourself in someone else, and that denotes a much bigger problem with YOU.
josie54 Posted June 10, 2008 Posted June 10, 2008 What you describe is not inner peace--it's peace dependent on external circumstances (your ex). If you truly had inner peace, you would feel the same sense of balance, poise, and composure whether she was with you or not. That's why "inner peace" is so elusive. It's hard to become a person for whom external circumstances are negligible and do not disturb internal calm and contentment. When you discover THAT secret please post it--I'd love to know.
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