jon01 Posted May 29, 2008 Posted May 29, 2008 This is going to sound a little harsh, but if you're a practicing Christian and or/your religion is important to you, never get involved with women that are Jewish or Muslim, or any other faith for that matter. Even if they aren't religious. It's not just them you will deal with, it's their parents and their immediate family too. Your religious customs and upbringing defines who you are as a person, and I can assure you that it will be a cause of tension and problems over the years, ESPECIALLY when you have kids.
LoveDeluxe78 Posted July 11, 2008 Posted July 11, 2008 This is going to sound a little harsh, but if you're a practicing Christian and or/your religion is important to you, never get involved with women that are Jewish or Muslim, or any other faith for that matter. Even if they aren't religious. It's not just them you will deal with, it's their parents and their immediate family too. Your religious customs and upbringing defines who you are as a person, and I can assure you that it will be a cause of tension and problems over the years, ESPECIALLY when you have kids. I really beg to differ. Interfaith relationships, just like interracial relationships do require extra amount of work in many ways because of the need for understanding and compromise between two people, but the couples usually get into these relationships being AWARE of potential problems and ANTICIPATING that differences may occur. In some ways, I think this allows for a bigger appreciation for direct and open communication and compromise. Couples who get married thinking they don't have too many differences may fall apart the moment certain conflicts surface. All I am saying is that as long as you respect each other, respect the differences, then the relationship can work. I've seen it work, been a product of an inter faith marriage, and my parents are still together after 30 years. I wouldn't dismiss the potential for something more just because the person is not from the same religious background as you... My philosophy is that life is short, there are only a few people with whom you feel a true connection and chemistry with, so why let some differences get in the way..... Just my 2 cents.
Author jon01 Posted July 11, 2008 Author Posted July 11, 2008 I really beg to differ. Interfaith relationships, just like interracial relationships do require extra amount of work in many ways because of the need for understanding and compromise between two people, but the couples usually get into these relationships being AWARE of potential problems and ANTICIPATING that differences may occur. In some ways, I think this allows for a bigger appreciation for direct and open communication and compromise. Couples who get married thinking they don't have too many differences may fall apart the moment certain conflicts surface. All I am saying is that as long as you respect each other, respect the differences, then the relationship can work. I've seen it work, been a product of an inter faith marriage, and my parents are still together after 30 years. I wouldn't dismiss the potential for something more just because the person is not from the same religious background as you... My philosophy is that life is short, there are only a few people with whom you feel a true connection and chemistry with, so why let some differences get in the way..... Just my 2 cents. Good points. But I still believe strongly that if your faith is important to you, it is better to avoid inter-faith relationships and especially marriage. I don't need to explain this any further, because if you are a true Christian you should already understand this.
vivrantflo Posted July 11, 2008 Posted July 11, 2008 Good points. But I still believe strongly that if your faith is important to you, it is better to avoid inter-faith relationships and especially marriage. I don't need to explain this any further, because if you are a true Christian you should already understand this. I agree with this 100%
HiItsMe Posted July 11, 2008 Posted July 11, 2008 This is going to sound a little harsh, but if you're a practicing Christian and or/your religion is important to you, never get involved with women that are Jewish or Muslim, or any other faith for that matter. Even if they aren't religious. It's not just them you will deal with, it's their parents and their immediate family too. Your religious customs and upbringing defines who you are as a person, and I can assure you that it will be a cause of tension and problems over the years, ESPECIALLY when you have kids. Heck, if I did that...I'd NEVER date at ALL!! See....I live in the SOUTH, and I'm Catholic....and well...of course...mostly southern Baptists or Non-Denominational born again types here.. My mother's ENTIRE "Immediate" family of 8...most of them married other Christian related faiths ALL Catholics...that wound up marrying Methodists, Baptists or Presbyterians. I think ...because of THIS, no one is practicing Catholic anymore. lol But...hey....as long as they are all Christians of some FLAVOR, right?
blind_otter Posted July 11, 2008 Posted July 11, 2008 This is going to sound a little harsh, but if you're a practicing Christian and or/your religion is important to you, never get involved with women that are Jewish or Muslim, or any other faith for that matter. Even if they aren't religious. It's not just them you will deal with, it's their parents and their immediate family too. Your religious customs and upbringing defines who you are as a person, and I can assure you that it will be a cause of tension and problems over the years, ESPECIALLY when you have kids. Huh. It worked out fine for my parents. Guess it depends on the people and how rigid, close minded, and inflexible they are.
LoveDeluxe78 Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 Huh. It worked out fine for my parents. Guess it depends on the people and how rigid, close minded, and inflexible they are. Yup, mine have been married 30 years and counting!
Lyssa Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 Huh. It worked out fine for my parents. Guess it depends on the people and how rigid, close minded, and inflexible they are. Yup. Worked out really well for all of us. Been going on for generations now - my great grandfather converted to Islam and here all of us - inter-racial/faith - still going on strong. I'm seeing a Christian and I wouldn't want him to convert because of me. He has to believe in my religion and so far, he's the one that has been asking a lot about Islam and he wants to learn more about it. I agree with you B_O, it depends on how close-minded some people are.
fral945 Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 I partially agree. I would guess it would be more of a problem when you are a completely different religion (i.e., Muslim or Jewish vs. Christian) or if one person is religious and the other is not. Especially if you have very fundamentalist beliefs about your religion. But I think different denominations (i.e., Baptist vs. Catholic) can work pretty well. My parents haven't had much of an issue, and they are both Christian, but different denominations. Their value systems are very similar. The bottom line the more fundamentalist the person (or their family) is about their religion, the greater chance there will be conflict by marrying someone of a different religion. Extreme people are hard to deal with in general, whether they are religious or secular.
taiko Posted July 18, 2008 Posted July 18, 2008 Yup, mine have been married 30 years and counting! The question has to then be asked how active are they in their faith life. Does one parent go alone to his house of worship on Saturday and the other parent go alone to her house of worship on Sunday? Are the children dragged to both, alternate weekends, just attend during major holidays? Does a parent assume that you will not spend eternity with God because you choose the other parent's faith? Do the parents actually believe and participate in their claimed faith or do they just fear telling the extended family that they really don't believe but it is just easier to play act a belief?
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