Javelin Posted May 27, 2008 Posted May 27, 2008 I really can't believe what I read. How does someone cheat 30 days before moving out to be with the person of their dreams? Not only that, but have no legitiate reasons as to why they cheated?
twice_shy Posted May 27, 2008 Posted May 27, 2008 I really can't believe what I read. How does someone cheat 30 days before moving out to be with the person of their dreams? Not only that, but have no legitiate reasons as to why they cheated? I agree. However, her bf needs to not concentrate on "why" she cheated and realize that all that matters is she DID cheat. And if he can't trust her while they are apart, then why would he want her even when they are together?
skittles200366 Posted May 28, 2008 Posted May 28, 2008 you just dont understand all the dynamics of this all... im really not a bad person, but I admit I do have issues that me and my boyfriend are currently working through...he trust me, just not to lie
Untouchable_Fire Posted May 28, 2008 Posted May 28, 2008 you just dont understand all the dynamics of this all... im really not a bad person, but I admit I do have issues that me and my boyfriend are currently working through...he trust me, just not to lie To be completely honest... I would guess that your BF doesn't really trust you right now. From a guy perspective, he would be a total idiot if he did. It also sounds like he is going to keep you at arms length and date around for a while. That would be the top reason I would avoid any kind of relationship status with you. That way I could do what I want and it wouldn't be cheating. Chances are he is thinking the same thing.
cherrymoon Posted May 28, 2008 Posted May 28, 2008 hi there people, has nobody noticed how young this girl is, she is marriage material just not a year after her PROM. Some were harsh on her and nobody saw the immaturity "I open my legs" come on people this is just a child who did a stupid thing. At 18 we were all kids and she thinks she has history with a guy she went out with for a year. Yeap i am sure you did but real life is very different by no means should she be judged for her immature behaviour for the rest of her adult life. ANIMALISTIC Oh god girlie wait till you hit your 30's then you will understand animalistic.
Untouchable_Fire Posted May 28, 2008 Posted May 28, 2008 hi there people, has nobody noticed how young this girl is, she is marriage material just not a year after her PROM. Some were harsh on her and nobody saw the immaturity "I open my legs" come on people this is just a child who did a stupid thing. At 18 we were all kids and she thinks she has history with a guy she went out with for a year. Yeap i am sure you did but real life is very different by no means should she be judged for her immature behaviour for the rest of her adult life. ANIMALISTIC Oh god girlie wait till you hit your 30's then you will understand animalistic. I understand what your saying, and I hold no ill will against skittles... in fact I really just want her to be prepared for what may come next. However, I was 18 not too long ago, and I don't think that is an excuse to hurt other people. I think you would have a completely different opinion if this was a guy! I don't support some of the crude language and mean things several of the posters have said and used. However, I also do not think that your rationalizing is helpful either.
twice_shy Posted May 28, 2008 Posted May 28, 2008 you just dont understand all the dynamics of this all... im really not a bad person, but I admit I do have issues that me and my boyfriend are currently working through...he trust me, just not to lie He trusts you, but you cheated on him....hmmm..what am I missing here?
BearHugger Posted May 28, 2008 Posted May 28, 2008 I really can't believe what I read. How does someone cheat 30 days before moving out to be with the person of their dreams? Not only that, but have no legitiate reasons as to why they cheated? I am def. not trying to rag on you either skittles, but I do wonder about what Javelin said. I mean 30 days before moving in together... in a 16 month relationship. Can you really say this was the first time you cheated on him?
skittles200366 Posted May 30, 2008 Posted May 30, 2008 I've cheated on before..during the first 6mths of our relationship I did some things with other guys but it took those first 6mths for me to realize that I do truly love him and I owned up to all those things.
Untouchable_Fire Posted May 30, 2008 Posted May 30, 2008 I've cheated on before..during the first 6mths of our relationship I did some things with other guys but it took those first 6mths for me to realize that I do truly love him and I owned up to all those things. Skittles, You have to realize that sometimes your dealing with a humpty dumpty situation. Just be prepared if he doesn't want you as a serious GF in the future. Also... I get the impression that you think it's Ok to cheat if your not in love? This is a great opportunity for you to learn, and one of the things you should take away from this is that cheating has nothing to do with love. Love won't keep you from cheating... and not having love isn't an excuse to cheat. It's about honesty, and who you are as a person. What do you think, that you have learned from this?
shakenandstirred Posted May 30, 2008 Posted May 30, 2008 I've cheated on before..during the first 6mths of our relationship I did some things with other guys but it took those first 6mths for me to realize that I do truly love him and I owned up to all those things. See Skittles, Your BF has more tolerance than me. I may have forgiven you the first time. And that's a big MAYBE. But to do it again? I would have been out the door. That's simply disrespectful and using someone as a doormat.
skittles200366 Posted May 31, 2008 Posted May 31, 2008 i didn't have sex with the other guys from the first six months and the fact is he did say that was the only time he would give me a second chance and i really thought it was...i had to beg and beg for him to take me back i dont love easily and i push away alot in a relationship so yeah its not an excuse but i have alot of hidden issues that truly do play into this all about two months and i will be moving out there, maybe one month but nonetheless we are both wanting me out there so badly, i think the guy i cheated on him with though is going to commit suicide when i move out there, at least thats what he says
Author Javelin Posted June 2, 2008 Author Posted June 2, 2008 i dont love easily But it's real easy to mass around with other people? Let me ask you a question..During your 16 month relationship, how many guys have you messed with?
Untouchable_Fire Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 I only actually had sex with the ex. Are things going better now between you two?
Spectre Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 When it comes to the email's.... The reason why I have his password is because in March it just so happened that he was talking with girl's on myspace. No he wasn't cheating but he was getting pretty damn comfy talking with them and in one subject title...was "baby gurl". I stopped things before they got far enough to be counted as cheating but thats why i have his passwords. On the other hand I have became more trusting, I don't have his new myspace password...he made a new account with only his best friends in it...I only have his password for yahoo and really I just check it to see if he has read my messages yet or not. You're a straight up skank, leave this dude the hell alone please. You have no right to be checking this guy's email, not when you were the one who couldn't keep her legs closed. Leave this poor sap alone, if he really is as good a guy as you claim, he deserves a lot better than someone like you. I don't know why some girls just turn skanky when they have a good thing going, that mystery is right up there with the bermuda triangle.
skittles200366 Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 I don't have any of his passwords anymore not only that but also I am not a skank...i made one mistake, everyone does what shows the true character of a person is if they man up to that mistake and how far they are willing to go to make it right. Yeah things are wonderful between us, we are so excited thinking about me getting out there and its like things never happened.
Spectre Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 I don't have any of his passwords anymore not only that but also I am not a skank...i made one mistake, everyone does what shows the true character of a person is if they man up to that mistake and how far they are willing to go to make it right. Yeah things are wonderful between us, we are so excited thinking about me getting out there and its like things never happened. Oh please, why does everyone on this board think being honest gets you some sort of Kudos? It doesn't, it is just the decent thing to do, you know, kinda like how the other decent thing to do is not cheat on a guy you're about to move in with? Also no, everyone doesn't cheat on someone they claim to love with their ex just because the guy is there, that is grade A skank behavior right there if you couldn't keep yourself from screwing your fat ugly ex, you didn't mistakenly remove your clothes and spread those legs. I mistakenly forgot to take my medicine last night, THAT is a mistake, not screwing an ex bf cuz he happens to be there. Good luck with the whole "it's like it never happened" because, it won't stay that way forever. I feel damn sorry for your bf if he ends up stuck with you, no offense or anything, but you definitely aren't long term gf material.
twice_shy Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 Good luck with the whole "it's like it never happened" because, it won't stay that way forever. Too true. He may seem happy now, but I guarantee, visions of what she did to him will pop into his head now and then, and even if he doesn't show it, he will be angry. he will probably choose just to bottle it up. She may think its like "it never happened", but I guarantee you he won't feel that way from time to time. And living with someone that has cheated on you is no life as far as I'm concerned.
Untouchable_Fire Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 Good luck with the whole "it's like it never happened" because, it won't stay that way forever. I feel damn sorry for your bf if he ends up stuck with you, no offense or anything, but you definitely aren't long term gf material. If your just interested in hurting someone's feelings.... go somewhere else. Do you really think that your being constructive? She may think its like "it never happened", but I guarantee you he won't feel that way from time to time. And living with someone that has cheated on you is no life as far as I'm concerned. You made the same point about 80 posts back. Not everyone is you... and this guy will make his own choices.
Spectre Posted June 5, 2008 Posted June 5, 2008 Untouchable, come here and leave your opinion, instead of focusing on someone else's, nobody said you had to agree. Also, sometimes with people like this, you need to make your point more than once, and more than twice, and more than three times, even. Sometimes people don't need you to be constructive, sometimes they just need a wake up call so they can get their sh*t together and stop screwing over people they claim to care about. Speaking of going elsewhere, if this chick was interested in hurting a guy who cares about her by screwing her ex bf, she should of just dumped the poor guy, she would of been doing him a favor in the long run. But yes, this guy will make his own choices, and it most likely will be to drop this chick once he realizes she is trash. I honestly don't care if it's harsh, if people on this board can treat people they claim to love with so much utter disrespect, they get none from me. If this girl truly cared about this guy, she would leave him the hell alone, instead she checks his email and tries to stay in his life. Hopefully this guy wakes up and smells the coffee soon, or he's gonna doom himself to a relationship that can never be as fulfilling as one where both people respect and love one another. Of course it's possible he might choose her, but why should this guy settle for a tainted relationship because the chick who claims to love him..well, doesn't actually love him.
twice_shy Posted June 6, 2008 Posted June 6, 2008 You made the same point about 80 posts back. And I'll make it as many times as I like. Not everyone is you... and this guy will make his own choices. You like stating the obvious? Everyone gives advice here, nobody is saying he has to do it or we'll come over to his house and kick the crap out of him. he'll make whatever choice he wants irregardless of my advice or YOURS.
twice_shy Posted June 6, 2008 Posted June 6, 2008 If your just interested in hurting someone's feelings.... go somewhere else. Do you really think that your being constructive? Yes, Spectre is being constructive. skit has NO IDEA what is going on inside her man's head. You might say nobody does. But as people that have been betrayed(I can't speak for Spectre), WE KNOW what runs through our minds when betrayed. She thinks its going to be all roses because SHE can put this behind her. And if she thinks that all is going to be roses without realizing that, although things may seem fine on the outside with her man, on the inside he may just be reeling and bottle up anger alot. And if she doesn't realize that, she will doom the R. Now I digress, its my opinion, whether they stay together or not, that its doomed anyway...at least in the sense of having the R she would want.
SueBee3490 Posted June 6, 2008 Posted June 6, 2008 you just dont understand all the dynamics of this all... im really not a bad person, but I admit I do have issues that me and my boyfriend are currently working through...he trust me, just not to lie I can't believe what I'm reading here. So in your mind you can go out behind his back and as long as he doesn't ask you about it, so you aren't technically lying because he didn't ask, so that's ok? I would almost bet that when he says he "trusts you" he is implying that you be faithful to him.
SueBee3490 Posted June 6, 2008 Posted June 6, 2008 I've cheated on before..during the first 6mths of our relationship I did some things with other guys but it took those first 6mths for me to realize that I do truly love him and I owned up to all those things. Again here you are contradicting yourself, if you found out after going out on him during the 1st 6 mos of your relationship, that you loved him, why cheat again. Your actions aren't matching your words.
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