Author theline Posted June 5, 2008 Author Posted June 5, 2008 Looking for an update, if any. I know you state OM would be home this week. Are you keeping your distance or are you guys back to your normal routine? Have you talked with your H? Hope all is well No news particularly. He's back, we've been spending a lot of time working together, I get all melty and we go home to our respective spouses, who both of us have been getting along fairly well with (to my knowledge, anyway). We're going to be spending less time together after the project is finished and I kinda figure it will just blow over.
Untouchable_Fire Posted June 6, 2008 Posted June 6, 2008 No news particularly. He's back, we've been spending a lot of time working together, I get all melty and we go home to our respective spouses, who both of us have been getting along fairly well with (to my knowledge, anyway). So... what makes you get all melty over this guy? I mean, what does he have that your husband doesn't? A nice car? Nice abs?
BadKittyNo Posted June 6, 2008 Posted June 6, 2008 " So... what makes you get all melty over this guy? I mean, what does he have that your husband doesn't? " Maybe nothing, maybe it isn't a case of one making up for what the other lacks. Maybe since we are all unique and different it is a case of complementing instead of completing.
Author theline Posted June 8, 2008 Author Posted June 8, 2008 As usual, BadKittyNo has it right. The OM is sexy as hell, he listens to me and he makes me laugh. I have a ridiculous, head-over-heels crush on him and I get all giddy when I'm around him. He makes me feel like a teenager. Is it mostly chemical? Quite possibly, but it's still true. It's not a matter of him having anything my H doesn't. My H is a great guy, and what we have together is much deeper than any kind of crush thing, no matter how strong. It's just different.
pelicanpreacher Posted June 8, 2008 Posted June 8, 2008 So, let's flip the script a bit...(Thinking of the end game!) What happens if you and your husband are having "problems" and another guy (or even the same guy if he's single) comes along?..
Author theline Posted June 12, 2008 Author Posted June 12, 2008 Oh crap, you all are right. I'm totally falling for him. This isn't good. I need to go back and read what's left of this thread again.
Chrome Barracuda Posted June 12, 2008 Posted June 12, 2008 ...Sigh. Another reason why men should never get married.
Owl Posted June 12, 2008 Posted June 12, 2008 OK...now that you know you're falling for him...time to take action to save your marriage, right??? You now know the truth...you've gone too far. So...back off, end your relationship with OM, and work on your marriage. I know you don't WANT to right now...but its what you NEED to do if you want to save your marriage. You've agreed that there's a problem...now step up and fix it!!!
LakesideDream Posted June 29, 2008 Posted June 29, 2008 ...Sigh. Another reason why men should never get married. CB I don't know that I have ever agreed with you without reservation before. Your comment does seem appropriate in this case.
Chrome Barracuda Posted June 30, 2008 Posted June 30, 2008 I swear man , a man would break his back for a woman, cook, clean, get a house, get money. And a woman would throw it all away for a cheater who cheats on his wife. It's getting sickening to see people who are so weak they cant control their emotions even when they know it will be a dead end. And then in the end what can they say, destroying two families, losing respect, your kids respect, and trust, your friends respect, your honor integrity and self repsect. What's there left? Was it all worth it to cheat? Is the fantasy of being with someone else so great that your willing to jeopardize everything for some MM who aint never gonna leave his wife. and even if he does leave that will probably never guarantee faithfullness to one woman. I couldnt live my life like that. I implore all men to not get married if they run into women who tend to immerse themselves in a fantasy life. Screw them and dump them to the curb. They arent worth the marriage license and I said it!
twice_shy Posted June 30, 2008 Posted June 30, 2008 As usual, BadKittyNo has it right. The OM is sexy as hell, he listens to me and he makes me laugh. I have a ridiculous, head-over-heels crush on him and I get all giddy when I'm around him. He makes me feel like a teenager. Is it mostly chemical? Quite possibly, but it's still true. Well the for !@#%! sake, divorce your husband already and set him free. It's not a matter of him having anything my H doesn't. My H is a great guy, and what we have together is much deeper than any kind of crush thing, no matter how strong. It's just different. all the more reason you should divorce your husband. If he is a great man, then he deserves better than someone like you. He deserves to be treated with respect and divorcing him will allow him to find that.
justice Posted June 30, 2008 Posted June 30, 2008 Yes, of course it's wrong. You do need to go NC but until you actually make up your mind to do that, there is the potential that at least two out of three people will get hurt. Possibly all three. Do you really want that?
Author theline Posted July 3, 2008 Author Posted July 3, 2008 Of course we don't want that. I don't really know how to answer this old thread. I think the question posed has been definitively answered; we're sporting matching scarlet letter As at this point, and I'm more than aware of people's reactions to that. We're figuring it out for ourselves as we go.
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