msjules Posted December 5, 2008 Posted December 5, 2008 I'm on day 16 and there is NO turning back. Every day I feel a little stronger and there are actually days now where I don't cry at all. He has not tried to contact me in over three weeks and that is fine with me. I will never attempt to contact him again. Maybe someday we will be on friendlier terms, but he will have to be the one to contact me in order for that to happen. I am not planning on that ever happening, and I am not sure I even want that.
Frankasy Posted January 12, 2009 Posted January 12, 2009 Let me check it on my computer's calender. Hmmm well my last contact was on January the 3rd so that makes it 9 days. Man it's gets hard as hell sometimes.
Gere51 Posted January 12, 2009 Posted January 12, 2009 Today makes day 157 for me. Looks like it's a done deal and she's gone for good.
FF84 Posted January 12, 2009 Posted January 12, 2009 I'm over 3 weeks now. Still feel awful and still think about her 24/7. Been dreaming about her these last few nights too, finding it really tough right now. Especially seeing all the Christmas stuff everywhere and seeing couples doing Christmassy things tomorrow. Going to be a hard few weeks. You big wussbag. Look at yourself now, you've stopped counting the days and now you don't even care anymore.
ByShine Posted January 13, 2009 Posted January 13, 2009 3 Days now, Hoping to continue on for at least 30 more days
jc Posted January 13, 2009 Posted January 13, 2009 I believe I'm at 18 days now. And there is absolutely no going back, so the number may as well be 1800 days because I very much doubt we'll ever speak to one another again.
Joker77 Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 Not physically speaking to her? Two months. Texting? One month.
mmk1 Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 32 days. Its when you stop counting that you are there.
SelfCentered Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 Haven't been on here for a while. Figured cus I was moving on and seeing new people I didn't need the support but recently I've been feeling a little bit lonely and thoughts of her have been sneaking back in occasionally. So, to make myself feel better. 3 months of NC. Well almost. But **** it, 3 months. 'ave some of that! I'm better off for it.
awesomeallalone Posted January 28, 2009 Posted January 28, 2009 23 days cant believe ive made it this long.... everything seems like a blur.... hmmmm is it over yet? nope pain still there....
msjules Posted January 28, 2009 Posted January 28, 2009 12 days and it gets easier with each passing day. Of course this is like the third time I've had to start over.
sad_panda Posted February 9, 2009 Posted February 9, 2009 I already stopped counting, and only counted now to reply to this post. 59 days. I stopped counting after I hit the 45th. Do I miss him? Yes I do, but it's more like sporadic pangs now, instead of the perpetual longing I felt before.
annabellee Posted March 26, 2009 Posted March 26, 2009 Okay, does it count if I look at his FB or Twitter pages? Is that contact? I'm not posting anything, just sadly confirming that he is charming the world as usual and that no one but me (after five years of his controlling and abusive behavior) knows the truth. But...it does make me feel bad every time I look. Thoughts on the NC rules?
twicebitten Posted March 27, 2009 Posted March 27, 2009 Well, I did go THREE weeks when we 1st broke-up (5 weeks ago) ... I change both my phone #'s, but not my email ... he emailed me 2 weeks ago ... I did NOT reply for 8 days (was sooo PROUD of myself) BUT then broke down & called (with # blocked) and ever since I seriously F'ed up!!!! We've been texting, talking & I even saw him & then SLEPT with him on Sat!!! I HATED myself, cried the whole next day! Then he called on Monday saying he still loves me, etc., ... SAYS it, but where's the ACTIONS!!?? A bit of background ... He broke-up with me after 7 months, an engagement & a previous break (more like IGNORED me & vanished)!! I'm 44 & have been through a divorce (after 15 year marriage, 3 years ago) BUT have NEVER felt like this before ... almost feel addicted to him & his touch!!?? I'm too old & WISE for this S**T, but yet still ... acting as if I'm an idiot school-girl!!!? I think I SUCK at NC!!!?? If I have to change our # one more time my daughter will kill me! LOL! But it's as if the only way I can escape his 'spell' on me!!!? ANY THOUGHTS/SUGGESTIONS!?? Thank you ... Twicebitten
kizik Posted March 27, 2009 Posted March 27, 2009 Okay, does it count if I look at his FB or Twitter pages? Is that contact? I'm not posting anything, just sadly confirming that he is charming the world as usual and that no one but me (after five years of his controlling and abusive behavior) knows the truth. But...it does make me feel bad every time I look. Thoughts on the NC rules? YES - looking at your ex's social function sites COUNTS as breaking NC. Annabellee, why do you insist on torturing yourself? Stop looking! Stop it! Yes, you know how abusive he is - now count yourself lucky that he is someone else's problem! No more FB, MySpace, anything. Got it? Hugs, -k
soulseeker Posted March 27, 2009 Posted March 27, 2009 Its when you stop counting that you are there. Here, here!
EmperorR Posted April 26, 2009 Posted April 26, 2009 115 days whewwew I did it once I can do it again 14 days STAY STRONG
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