MrsHellnoFire Posted June 2, 2008 Posted June 2, 2008 The scary part of this whole debacle is that since he told you everything that went on, he felt his behavior was acceptable and not crossing a line. He might be one of those men who feels everything up to intercourse is ok.
Author MrsHellnoFire Posted June 2, 2008 Author Posted June 2, 2008 I feel this thread has taken another turn in some ways. I don't want it to be a debate on SCs again, because nothing gets accomplished. However, what I'm trying to find out I guess, is why Jersey, you feel so 'threatened' by these women? Perhaps if you found out why you felt this way and dealt with it, you might be more open-minded to such things. My wife is extremely beautiful and everytime we go out to a bar or a club, it only takes about 2 mintues before you notice that guys are staring at her. Personally I have no problem with that, God gave her a gift and if that makes her feel good about herself, then more power to her. However she knows her boundaries and if a guy were to become inappropirate then it's dealt with. Jersey, what would be worse for you? A stripper giving your SO a lapdance, or some chick he met at the bar? To me, SCs are more of a novelty. Most guys I know don't go there to hook up, or find a one night stand. Yes, you do have those few that do go there for that reason, but like I said before if your SO is one of those guys, he's just as likely to cheat outside the SC. The way you talk about 'women in society' you paint them as these helpless, poor creatures that get taken advantage of. Yet you fail to disclose that it's these same women that make the porn, that bring these fantasies onto the TV for us 'men'. Women do have alot of power and show it by being the main ingredient in these movies. These women command and get good money for what they do. Men, on the other hand get about a tenth of what the women do. But on top of that, it's just that.. A fantasy. Society doesn't pressure men into cheating, or making their SO do things she doesn't want to do. Each of us is responsible for our own decisions. If you feel uncomfortable with what your spouse is doing, then I agree the spouse should not do it. If you don't trust him/her that's another issue altogether. With trust issues (cheating) the relationship will eventually fall apart unless it's dealt with. As for the insecurities/uncomfortableness you feel about your SO going to a SC I think you should at least ask yourself 'why' you feel this way, and second have you gone to one with your SO to find out exactly what it's about? The imagination tends to seem to goto the extremes with these sort of things, and in all reality don't compare to what one might think what really goes on in one of these places. Oh wow, another "eve" tempting adam with the apple rendition. No, actually it is the business execs and those who own tv stations, production companies etc (almost always MEN since the origination of these corporations) who pimp out these women to you men so they can make millions off of you poor dopes! Hollywood is like survival of the fittest. You need certain traits to be hired for certain gigs that are predetermined by who's hiring you. Unless you want to remain unemployed. That's a given- and the ones in complete control are usually wealthy older male employers. I cannot believe you are blaming the actresses involved who are playing a character that was thought up by someone completely different. So short-sighted. You men continue to BITE the apple so to speak... and rake millions in for the companies involved... of course it will continue. As long as women need to eat and pay the bills.. and men have a need for perversion and/or sexual fantasy in their lives. Women have a history of being used and abused in hollywood yet you give the appearance that they are somehow in control with what's on tv.. yeah ok! Too many porn horror stories as well.. always being suckered in by rich male pigs. I guess thats your defense mechanism to deflect "guilt". It seems men have more latent guilt about these things than i realized, even though i dont think they should. But that doesnt mean they should relinquish all compassion for these women either. Men dont get paid much in the porn industry cause they are a dispensible product and easy to replace!
JerseyShortie Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 I don't even understand why men have relationships when they seem to just be concerned with thigns like strippers and porn over their relationships.
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