Ex and only Sex?

[justaman99]

Is it possible to just satisfy that emptiness of intimacy with an ex? Just get together for the physical need and nothing else?

[Trimmer]

Is it possible to just satisfy that emptiness of intimacy with an ex? Just get together for the physical need and nothing else?

People seem to have a hard enough time separating feelings from sex and physical intimacy when they try to do "FWB" (friends-with-benefits.) It sounds like you are proposing an FWB arrangement, but with the added feature of doing it with an ex.

 

The thing is, both partners have to be able to keep their emotions scrupulously separate from the purely physical intimacy. It's not enough just for you to believe you can do so - your ex would have to be able to do it as well. Any breakdown of that separation on the part of either partner would throw the relationship into a blender.

 

So if you're proposing it just because it's easier than trying to go out and find someone else, you need to ask yourself, given the risk of things getting really wierd (at best) or of one or both of you getting hurt all over again, would this really be the easier course?

 

For a lot of people, just seeing or talking to an ex sets them back from the process of recovering and moving on. Are you so sure that both of you are so removed from your relationship and can maintain such firm control that this wouldn't just become a total mind-f*ck for one or both of you?

[MalachiX]

I doubt it's possible. Personally, i know that if I started sleeping with my EX, I'd find myself lying in bed next to her after the act, wanting to cuddle and hold her like I used to, and probably suggesting that we could work it all out. That's just me.

[cyabye]

No it's NOT possible. Unless neither one of you has any self respect and are emotionally dead inside. Get a new friend with benefits. Just make sure you are both honest with one another before you take on a physical relationship only.

 

Hope this helps,

cyabye