mint_tea Posted April 7, 2008 Posted April 7, 2008 (edited) My boyfriend broke up with me last week and it's been SO difficult. We had been on a 6 week break and I told him after 2 weeks that I didn't want to wait 5 weeks to find out if we were getting back together. That's when he told me he didn't see it working out. Then he started saying stuff about how he wanted to break up and I was the one who wanted a break and basically twisted my words around. I have to see him often because I'm pledging the same national honors fraternity he's in. He subtly rubs it in my face that we're broken up, like pointing out hot girls right in front of me and talking about t*tty bars. Other people in the frat noticed and thought it was odd. Apparently someone in the frat talked to him last night about his behavior, but I still feel like CRAP. I miss him SOOO much, I almost started crying during class today. I just want him back...he doesn't want to be "tied down" and that's why he ended it. He said that when he broke up with me in November and came back a month later, so I'm just hoping it will happen again. I feel so empty. Things are so contentious it seems, and I just want to talk to him and know that he doesn't hate me!! Edited April 7, 2008 by mint_tea
quankanne Posted April 7, 2008 Posted April 7, 2008 sometimes you know it's really over, but your heart leads you to believe (or want) otherwise. As hard as this is to hear, it's probably time to start living life without him because I honestly don't think he's interested in being a couple again. Especially if this has happened before and it didn't "work" ... yes, you're going to be in terrible pain, and you'll tell yourself that you'd do anything to get things back to the way they were, but you know what? There's something better in the cards for you, someone who is going to love you and respect you and give you what you need in a relationship. What you had with him is pretty much a growing experience, and it's time to allow yourself to move on. my other thought is that if the dude had ANY respect for you, he wouldn't be talking shxt to you, or trying to make you look/feel bad in front of others. To me, that's a HUGE sign that he's not interested in reviving what you once had ... and a huge sign that maybe you need to look elsewhere, because if he cannot respectfully be broken up with you, then you really don't need a jackass like that for a significant other.
Trialbyfire Posted April 7, 2008 Posted April 7, 2008 because if he cannot respectfully be broken up with you, then you really don't need a jackass like that for a significant other. I fully agree with this. Your b/f is an idiot. He broke up with you for no other reason than being indulgent in his personal selfish lifestyle, then has the immaturity to rub it in. What a class A moron. You are one lucky person to have unloaded this creep.
Author mint_tea Posted April 7, 2008 Author Posted April 7, 2008 I feel like some of it is my fault. We haven't spoken since the break up and the last thing I said was, "You're a b*stard and I'm going to find someone who will treat me way better than you ever could. And I really hope you get in to a different school. Goodbye." And then I hung up. This pain is unbearable!!!!!!!!!!!
Trialbyfire Posted April 7, 2008 Posted April 7, 2008 No, it's not unbearable. You will survive and excel, like the rest of us. No one ever died of a broken heart unless they're into self-harm. If so, they have bigger problems than just a broken heart. Get busy living!!!!!!
Author mint_tea Posted April 7, 2008 Author Posted April 7, 2008 I hate myself for still loving him. I wish this was all a dream...
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