Its so True. No new contact=No new pain. But I have learned the hard way

[82knightrider]

Well I messed up again by trusting her and for the 5th and final time we have split,Forever.

Long story short. I am 27 ,she is 24 and have been together(living) 6 years.First 4 years were great but the last 2 have been a roller coaster.

Roller coaster started when she left suddenly in may of 06 back to her moms without explanation. She comes back a month later but then I find out about her and my best friend . The best thing to do but I didnt know it at the time was to cut them both out for good but I forgave her and gave him the boot. But the relationship turned sour. I couldnt trust her and she didnt respect me.

So she leaves again in nov 06 and comes back a month later. Same $h+t different stank.So the in the beginning of last year she gets a new job and theres a guy that I had a gut feeling she would like him.Keep that in mind. She said "oh I would never get with a co worker,hes not my type " blah blah.

So she leaves for the third time in Nov of 07.By then I have realized from reading here is that im her doormat ,and decide to go No contact to get on with my life.So I went 3 months no contact and honestly had her completely off my mind and loving life.

Come new years she calls me at midnight exactly .I was by myself so I was vulnrable.I answered and we talked .She said she missed me yada yada yada. I dont give in .I just kept cool.

I remember i was teling myself before she called 08 would be great! But she sucked me back in and no ones fault but mine. I shoulda left her alone knowing the games she plays.But I let it happen and cant change that. So we talk go out on dates then in the beginning of march we move together. 1 week in she tells me she kissed that co worker while we were broken up.I was like what ever we were broken up.

Antoher week goes by then she told me they kissed again.So now she cheats on me but with her history of sugar coating and my gut feeling new I needed to know more.

I text the co worker " how does my dic* taste!"

he writes how does mine taste . So I call him and he tells me she gave him head twice while we were broken up. I didnt want to know more

I confront her with her web of lies and she says it was true. So now we are done for good. I cant take it anymore so I took her to her moms ,dropped her off and told her good luck. I know shes hurtin but shes really confused and dont need her in my life.

I shoulda stayed away for good and not answered her call on new years but everything happens for a reason. So this for me is the closure to cut her loose for good. I did before and the thought always lingered we can work this out .But now that thought is gone and I never want to hear from her ever again.It hurts but I have to release her for good but I have to!

Stick to no contact no matter what!

[Amy22]

Good job for not playing her games and saying you are done. You don't deserve someone like that. Keep your head high and know you did the right thing. Good Luck Amy

[82knightrider]

Yeah know for sure im not going back .But I hate the "what ifs"

Like what if I would of married her,etc etc .Maybe we would be happy. I combat those thoughts with she would have done it anyways. Better we didnt get married. I also hate the fact that she pretty much stringed me along so she could persue her FWB who has 2 kids and is going through a divorce. She always told me forever and she loved me but she was still secretly talking to this guy while we were together. I feel so used and worthless. How can I feel better? Like get this whole situation off my mind?

[brokeninside]

You got owned. Now pick yourself up, brush the dust off of your shoulders stand up straight, and smile.

The guy asked you how does his cock taste. I can imagine that pissed you off. Hell it would piss me off. Infact, I think it would piss every self respecting man off. However I must add, you asked him first, and got what you deserved.

I went thought something similar. While talking to my ex and myself sleeping with two other women in the break up (one which was more physically attractive - something i was proud of in the space of one month) I asked her if she had slept with another man. (She left me on my birthday, some time after valentines and oh yeah lets not forget hooked up with another guy couple of days after). Knowing all that I still asked - because I was in neverland in my thoughts still. She said I still have the biggest cock shes ever sucked. That blew my mind. And then she smiled and left. 2.5 years, 4 months after 3 week vacation together. Wow. If theres an emotional nuke that exists in this world - this must have been it. I felt like I was living on another planet for 3 months. 'So I was just a cock?'

But then I came back to earth, and laughed about it. Heck, I even respect her for what she did. I must say I never had a number pulled on me like that. That girl really had it in her, I was head over heels for her.

But she was a bitch. And bitches are not long term material.

Your ex is a bitch. Not long term material.

No she does not think of you in a flowery way. No she doesnt care about the picture in the frame taht she had over her bed. No she doesnt miss you hugging her to sleep. Why? Cause shes doing it with someone else. And much more.

This is gona hurt. Give yourself atleast a year. Don't get into anything else. If your the type of guy, sleep around with no string attached just not to forget what jr is there for. You still have balls, right? I know it doesn't feel like it now, but you will get around to it soon.

And btw, that guy is not better than you in any respect just because your ex is doing what shes doing with him. Don't let those thoughts haunt you. I know they will, but try to brush them off. You will realise this is all bullocks in the end, and will wonder why you have wasted so much time on her. Don't be angry at yourself that its taking you x number of months to get over it. Its going to hurt.

Take care, and best of luck

Edited April 8, 2008 by brokeninside

[82knightrider]

You got owned. Now pick yourself up, brush the dust off of your shoulders stand up straight, and smile.

The guy asked you how does his cock taste. I can imagine that pissed you off. Hell it would piss me off. Infact, I think it would piss every self respecting man off. However I must add, you asked him first, and got what you deserved.

 

I actually got what I wanted. It doesnt hurt because I knew I would find this news out so I was prepaired. I had to txt him that .After she told me she hooked up with him during our split and again after getting back together i needed to know the truth because she kept saying that they just kissed. But my gut told me otherwise so I knew I would get the truth with that text.And thats the info I need to leave her in the dust. Finally I caught her in all her lies. Im glad I found out than later down the road and waste more time.