Citizen Erased Posted April 7, 2008 Posted April 7, 2008 Okay, so my boyfriend and I had a party on the weekend for our friend who is going overseas. Had alot of fun, much hilarity ensued. Anyway. I spent most of the night with my best friend and this guy my boyfriend works with, it was great fun. We were up until about 6 with our drunken ramblings So, the problem was my boyfriends best friend. He kept giving me dirty looks. I had no idea why. Until he started making some comments about my closeness to the guy my boyfriend works with (let's call him Mark). Like he left us alone to go and smoke outside, and made a comment like "you had better not do anything whilst I'm gone". Seemed harmless, but he kept saying how we shouldn't be left alone and we should not spend so much time speaking to each other Don't get me wrong, "Mark" is a great guy. He is incredibly nice, intelligent and I find him attractive (I'm in a long-term relationship, not dead ). But I would just never go there, I may not be dead but I'm in a long term relationship I'm just thinking that now there will be a problem with the best friend. We are all going out this weekend and I don't think I should have to not speak to someone just because someone else can't keep to their own business. How do I handle it? My boyfriend said he was probably just joking, but I don't think he was. Oh the drama which alcohol brings. Maybe I should abstain.
Pyro Posted April 7, 2008 Posted April 7, 2008 Okay, so my boyfriend and I had a party on the weekend for our friend who is going overseas. Had alot of fun, much hilarity ensued. Anyway. I spent most of the night with my best friend and this guy my boyfriend works with, it was great fun. We were up until about 6 with our drunken ramblings So, the problem was my boyfriends best friend. He kept giving me dirty looks. I had no idea why. Until he started making some comments about my closeness to the guy my boyfriend works with (let's call him Mark). Like he left us alone to go and smoke outside, and made a comment like "you had better not do anything whilst I'm gone". Seemed harmless, but he kept saying how we shouldn't be left alone and we should not spend so much time speaking to each other Don't get me wrong, "Mark" is a great guy. He is incredibly nice, intelligent and I find him attractive (I'm in a long-term relationship, not dead ). But I would just never go there, I may not be dead but I'm in a long term relationship I'm just thinking that now there will be a problem with the best friend. We are all going out this weekend and I don't think I should have to not speak to someone just because someone else can't keep to their own business. How do I handle it? My boyfriend said he was probably just joking, but I don't think he was. Oh the drama which alcohol brings. Maybe I should abstain. Its really none of his business. As long as your BF doesn't have any problems with you talking to the friend, then do as you please. You aren't doing anything wrong.
Author Citizen Erased Posted April 7, 2008 Author Posted April 7, 2008 I think mainly I am just offended. Like he thinks I am unable to control myself. That I am untrustworthy. I mean, I am not 10 years old, talking to someone does not mean I luuuuurve them Normally I would just tell him to shut up, but I don't want to cause trouble with him over this, I dislike getting into fights with my boyfriends friends, I'd rather not go down that road.
Pyro Posted April 7, 2008 Posted April 7, 2008 I think mainly I am just offended. Like he thinks I am unable to control myself. That I am untrustworthy. I mean, I am not 10 years old, talking to someone does not mean I luuuuurve them Normally I would just tell him to shut up, but I don't want to cause trouble with him over this, I dislike getting into fights with my boyfriends friends, I'd rather not go down that road. Sounds like he is only trying to protect his friend, but he has nothing to protect your BF from.
tanbark813 Posted April 7, 2008 Posted April 7, 2008 I don't trust anyone who uses "whilst" in everyday conversation.
Trialbyfire Posted April 7, 2008 Posted April 7, 2008 You can't buy loyalty in a friendship. Your b/f is lucky to have someone who is willing to watch his back. If you feel that he's out-of-line in his loyalty to your b/f, you should discuss the situation with him, to find out and attempt to alleviate his concerns.
Saxis Posted April 7, 2008 Posted April 7, 2008 Since you're all going out this weekend, get them plastered and then bring it up. The inhibitions will be down and everyone will be more truthful. Let the battle begin!
Author Citizen Erased Posted April 8, 2008 Author Posted April 8, 2008 I don't trust anyone who uses "whilst" in everyday conversation. Well I may have added that bit, I was incredibly plastered at the time You're all right. He is a great friend to my boyfriend. I will have a talk to him, I just dislike awkward conversations. Perhaps Saxis's idea is best...
allina Posted April 8, 2008 Posted April 8, 2008 Was the friend being snide about it? Do you get along with him or does he think you're bad news? Hopefully he'll just be like "uh sorry I was being drunk and weird"
Author Citizen Erased Posted April 8, 2008 Author Posted April 8, 2008 Was the friend being snide about it? Do you get along with him or does he think you're bad news? Hopefully he'll just be like "uh sorry I was being drunk and weird" I hope maybe it was because he was drunk. We get along really well normally. We've known each other since High School, and there has not been a problem ever. I guess I will just have to wait until the weekend. I hate going over something so silly as this, it's just my ex boyfriend's best friend and I could not stand each other and it caused alot of problems. I'd hate for it to happen again.
burning 4 revenge Posted April 8, 2008 Posted April 8, 2008 Don't get me wrong, "Mark" is a great guy. He is incredibly nice, intelligent and I find him attractive (I'm in a long-term relationship, not dead ) Oh, well likewise
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