thegrid Posted April 7, 2008 Posted April 7, 2008 My gf left me a few days ago... one of her friends said that my gf loved me... and she didn't know what was wrong with her. then.. she second day .. i think they spoke.. and i asked her friend what was the problem.. they both avoided telling me something concrete.... and at one point her friend mentioned... but what if it's because of you? even though she had mentioned a few minutes before that it certainly has nothing to do with me... so....my ex says that she sincerely loved me.. but how can true feelings go out in just 3 or 4 days? i don't really know what to do... i really love her... and it's like something being torn apart from me... my ex also mentioned that a relationship must end eventually... but i don't understand... i opened another topic ... and noone has answered me in a week... really need help here.. i think i'm falling into depression... what should i do? what could be wrong with her.. it's all so vague...
curiousnycgirl Posted April 7, 2008 Posted April 7, 2008 I just went and read your last post, to see if perhaps you provided more information there - you didn't. What would you like us to tell you? You really don't say much in your post. How long were you and she together? How old are you guys? Did you live together or separately? Absent more information - who the heck knows!
Ofleg7 Posted April 7, 2008 Posted April 7, 2008 What reasons did she give when she broke it off with you? Truth is.. if it was sudden and she was vague about why.. there might be someone else. I know you don't want to hear that, but it's a possibility
Author thegrid Posted April 7, 2008 Author Posted April 7, 2008 well... we've been together for a year.. i don't think it's another guy... like she's still single now... she said that she doesn't know how she feels anymore and that she doesn't want to keep me tied to her and hurt me... she promised sth like she would surely realize that she has made a mistake and will come back to me... be it in 2 weeks.. 4 months .. she didn't say... and she's been through a lot of stress recently... with different things... and said we would still be best friends and stuff... then a friend of hers told me that she definitely loves me, but 2 days after she said "maybe it's something you done" ... but some minutes before she had said that it's definitely not my fault...
Author thegrid Posted April 7, 2008 Author Posted April 7, 2008 well... now she says that she doesn't love me anymore... and i suspect that she somehow forced herself not to love me anymore... now she is exactly the same she was before we were together she tells me that being with me makes her see life a lot more beautiful than it is and i filtered out that she doesn't want to live a dream and then face reality... it hurts... want more data? just ask.. i'll give you .. but i've got nothing else on my mind right now
Author thegrid Posted April 7, 2008 Author Posted April 7, 2008 and i'm 19 she's 18 and we still live with our parents
curiousnycgirl Posted April 7, 2008 Posted April 7, 2008 OK now I have a better picture - I am so sorry for you, but it looks like she's trying to move on. You guys are young, and this is what happens in our youth. We fall in love, continue to grow, and fall out of love. Unfortunately not always at the same time (rarely in fact). It hurts I wish I could give you a magic pill to make it better, but there is none. It just takes time. Go out - schedule things you enjoy - don't sit home and wallow. That's the best I can offer.
sedgwick Posted April 7, 2008 Posted April 7, 2008 I always feel kind of bad posting this, because I know this isn't what you want to hear right now, but it's like this: the relationships people have in their teens just simply don't last. I'm 36, and nobody my age I know is still with the person they dated when they were 19 and lived with their parents. You grow, you change. It's normal that you'll date other people. And teenagers are, unfortunately, fickle. But the great part is that you do tend to move on fairly quickly. I am sorry this happened to you, and believe me, I know it hurts. But it really will get better.
Ofleg7 Posted April 7, 2008 Posted April 7, 2008 she said that she doesn't know how she feels anymore and that she doesn't want to keep me tied to her and hurt me... That's quite similar to what my ex said when she ended it. She said she "loved me too much to hurt me". Then in the days after she kept saying that she doesn't know how she feels. I guess I pushed too much after that and just made things worse, so don't make the same mistake
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