Trialbyfire Posted April 7, 2008 Posted April 7, 2008 Wanting or forcing someone to change, is meaningless. They have to want to do this and do it on their own. Women are not the guardians or mothers' of relationships, as men are not the paternal dominators or fathers of relationships. Some men need to "man up" and learn to fuel their portion of the relationship, as some women need to "woman up" and fuel their portion too. Once both sides do this, it can create an amazing synergy.
Woggle Posted April 7, 2008 Posted April 7, 2008 I really don't get why so many women have problems with relationships because all they have to do is find a man that has what they want and that is what they will get. Stop trying to mold men into what you want us to be and relationships should go a whole lot better.
Phateless Posted April 7, 2008 Posted April 7, 2008 Any man that isn't a complete wimp doesn't want someone coming in and imposing their will on them. If he is that easy to mold, would you even want him? That said, it has happened that I began to like a girl so much that dropped my other plates to date her exclusively. She couldn't MAKE me do it, but she made me WANT to do it. If you can change someones attitude about something enough, you can get them to do a lot. Agreed. I'm looking for the girl that makes me WANT to stay away from other girls. It's not about negotiating, it's about finding the right person.
whichwayisup Posted April 7, 2008 Posted April 7, 2008 No self-respecting guy wants a woman to change things about himself that he's happy with. And he wants her to accept him for how he is. And no self respecting woman should have to follow your guideline to change into and become the porn-barbie you desire her to be. Why not accept her for who she is as well? See, it goes both ways....
barefoot880 Posted April 7, 2008 Posted April 7, 2008 (edited) Ok I know the answer but I am proving a point to someone. If your a a guy who doesn't want a relationship can a woman change you into wanting one? Or in any way would you want a woman to try and change you? Interesting you should start a thread like this. The current girl I've been talking to has been trying to convince me to start a relationship with her even after I told her that I'm going through a rough patch in my life right now. I don't know if a woman could change me into wanting a relationship. That remains to be seen in my case since this is the first time I've met a woman who does not give up so easily. She tells me how she thinks we would be perfect for each other because of our spiritual & intellectual connection. Maybe the reason I'm not eager to pursue a relationship with her at this time is because she's not a challenge. She calls me 3 times a day. In all actuality I'm trying to improve myself so I can feel better about what I have to offer in the relationship. I've told her that but she just comes back with "no no I like you the way you are." She doesn't get it that I don't like me the way I am. Edited April 7, 2008 by barefoot880
Author sweetbutcheeky Posted April 7, 2008 Author Posted April 7, 2008 Interesting you should start a thread like this. The current girl I've been talking to has been trying to convince me to start a relationship with her even after I told her that I'm going through a rough patch in my life right now. I don't know if a woman could change me into wanting a relationship. That remains to be seen in my case since this is the first time I've met a woman who does not give up so easily. She tells me how she thinks we would be perfect for each other because of our spiritual & intellectual connection. Maybe the reason I'm not eager to pursue a relationship with her at this time is because she's not a challenge. She calls me 3 times a day. In all actuality I'm trying to improve myself so I can feel better about what I have to offer in the relationship. I've told her that but she just comes back with "no no I like you the way you are." She doesn't get it that I don't like me the way I am. I am curious why you started dating if your in a place of trying to change yourself and in a rough patch of your life. Work out thing things with yourself before getting someone else involved. Did she know you didn't want to get into a relationship at this point of your life before started dating?
Author sweetbutcheeky Posted April 7, 2008 Author Posted April 7, 2008 I really don't get why so many women have problems with relationships because all they have to do is find a man that has what they want and that is what they will get. Stop trying to mold men into what you want us to be and relationships should go a whole lot better. It's not that easy to find a man has what you want. Oh boy that is a whole other thread lol) If it were that easy then no one here would be single! That is separate to the topic though. Man or woman, if you can't find what you want you can't force the next best to be what your looking for and try and change them
TheFonz Posted April 7, 2008 Posted April 7, 2008 It's not that easy to find a man has what you want. Oh boy that is a whole other thread lol) If it were that easy then no one here would be single! That is separate to the topic though. Man or woman, if you can't find what you want you can't force the next best to be what your looking for and try and change them I still say you're wrong when you are trying to say a man who wants a relationship before he meets a girl is a good thing. And I'm saying only a desperate guy says this until he's met the girl and she has shown him things over time that make him want to be in a relationship with her .
barefoot880 Posted April 8, 2008 Posted April 8, 2008 (edited) withdrew post Edited April 8, 2008 by barefoot880
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