allieapplesauce Posted April 7, 2008 Posted April 7, 2008 (edited) hi, ive been with this guy for about 6 months now. i've posted a nother thread or two about the relationship to get some imput--and i got a couple responses--about where it might be going or to just get someone elses POV. well to sum it up, we were basically friends on dates from like oct-jan until he asked me to be his gf after moving beyond the friend stage. he's been super distant with all of us at work. its been like this since feb and he just hates work and stuff i had to have a bit of a talk with him on the phone since we havent been talking/texting or anything. he isnt like talking to ANYONE at work. so i know its not just me. he says he just wants ppl to leave him a lone. like he just HATES it. and he almost wants to cry he hates it so much. he said i wasnt helping by harping on him. like when i would ask him to cheer up or be positive or not be negative....i wasnt the only one saying that to him. or the only one complaining about work but im trying to be positive or else its gonna be rough.... but i said i wld stop that. (im not a nagging or harping person) but i dont think he takes confrontation well and believe me i dont like it either! but we should be able to discuss our concerns...but he doesnt like us being concerned about him... he contradicted himself by saying he thought he was ready for a girlfriend but maybe he's not....(he was with a girl for quite a few yeasr, they got married, then divorced pretty quickly) so i said......where does that put us? do you want to end this? and he said "i like you. i do. i dont want you to think i don't like you. i want you to still come say hi at work and text and hang out and make plans" but that he wants to move elsewhere or stay in the area or move closer to work but he doesnt know if he is going to stay and work here. or he might be mad like this until his warning at work falls off (august) he needs some space. i told him i liked him and it scared me. and i didnt want the relationship to end. fri i left work without saying goodbye and walked by instead wihtout a glance. he commented on it so at least he noticed. i get these mixed signals. we're not hanging out like we used to and talking and texting. i guess he was annoyed wiht how i was harping and he just didnt want to deal with me? but then he is still like somewhat complimentive "you look pretty today. that's a cute shirt" and so on. a group went out this week to eat and in the parking lot while saying our goodbyes my friend called on my cell and we all went our separate ways but he walked me to my car when he could have easily just went to his own since i had a phone call but he walked with me and he gave me a hug and im pretty sure there wld have been a kiss but i kinda side tracked it...maybe i shouldnt have....but it happened....so...kinda confused by the moves he's making and then not making. so inconsistant. over the last month and a half, i tried to keep the talk up and it wasnt working so i tried to leave him alone, that didnt work, i tried to just be supportive, that wasnt working...so i stopped talking again...so maybe i'll try talking again. just little things. so if he talks back at least it'll get me thru this to some extent more than it has been. im moving in like a MONTH. out of my parents to my OWN place. im really hoping this works and i dont know how long i should wait...im almost on the last straw...but i dont want to end it if there's a chance....but its making me sick so something needs to change.... but should i really give up on this bump in the road that easily? why didnt he just say he wanted to end it when i asked him? i gave him an out. why didn't he take it? some POV would help! Especially a guy's point of view as i dont really have any guys i can talk to in person since the few there are are like his friends at work also... Edited April 7, 2008 by allieapplesauce
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