my ex

[timmay]

ok so i have been with this girl for 5 and 1/2 years. she was my first and i was hers. We have been togeather since high school and now she graduated college and i am on my last semester. We have always had a LDR and we made it work because we would visit each other often. I will tell you tho she deifinitly came to see me more then i went to see her. So i broke up with her mainly because during that time of the month she would get all crazy and make **** up causing arguements and then i would have to sit and explain to her that she is just being crazy. After we broke up i called her 2 days later saying you know can we work on things and she said no because her ex boss at work ( he is now not her boss because he got demoted) had been hitting on her the whole time she worked there which was about 6 months and so she started to see him. It took her 2 dates and then she went to this party with him and they had sex. OH did i mention he is 7 years older then us? anyways so i really not even mad at that just think she is dumb because she had no idea were this guy had been or what he had. Regardless me and her still talk and one of the main reasons she wont get back with me is because she said i didnt make the effort to see her like she did which is true. So for this past month and a half i have changed a lot. I didnt know how to express my emotions to her because i was a pot head and was just high all the time. Now i quit and have been working out like i use too every day and really just am in touch with my feelings. She says she loves me but is not in love with me. What kinda crap is that? I have talked to many people and they say she is pretty much confused and is just dating this older guy for comfort and it will most likley not work out. I have talked to her recently she calls me and after them having sex and her staying at his place he doesnt call her every day like he use to. Big supprise. I still have deep feelings for her and want her in my life. I have tryed this no contact but i see her everywhere. She use to never be on AIM no i see her on that **** all the time and sometimes she will msg me and we just shoot the ****. Last night tho she called me earlier during the day and i was at a baseball game so i texted her back whats up? she immeditly calls me and i dont remember how but then we get into this argurement. She says i talk like im in high school and that she doesnt care and that she wants me to feel like ****. did i mention she was drinking? So she says she needs to get off the phone but then we keep talking. So she keeps sending me mixed signals and i talk to her mom and her mom wants us back togeather because she knows how good of a guy i am. I donoo what kinda guy goes and talks to the ex's mom but i care for her so much that i would do anything to save our relationship even if it takes a while. So last night she hung up on me after a 40 min convo and now i havent talked to her. any advice is appreiated. this is also just me venting because i found that it helps me for some weird reason. OH i am 23 and she is about to be 23 this month.

[kymberann]

So what do you want to do with this relationship?

[Prosecco]

Sounds like you're better off moving on... Sad as it is to say, people's first serious relationship almost never last. People grow, learn what they want from a relationship and change. They also, if young, realise that if they stay in this one relationship, they'll never get to experience other things and find out what they're missing.

 

Often - they're missing nothing - but once they've found out, it's too late to go back.

 

Why would you want her back anyway? And you can maintain NC while bumping into someone - you just politely say hi, then get on with whatever you were doing without them. Chatitng on aim etc, having text conversations, all that - wont help you move on. And will mean you keep hearing about her new relationships, and her having sex with other people. Want that? Especially if she had any empathy or respect at all, she would NOT talk about such things...