motive2002 Posted April 6, 2008 Posted April 6, 2008 So I broke NC in a big way. I saw her in person. Basically it goes like this. We had a long distance relationship. Had talked about moving in together. At a certain point she broke it off. Needed space.. all that sort of thing. You see, she tells me she is scared of the huge commitment laid before us. That being me relocating to live with her and she panicked. We talked about reconciliation, but with no hope for it. She said she was scared of taking on the huge responsibility of moving me there and what would happen if it didn't work out. So when I saw her in person, I got the full brunt of her real emotions. Tears and so forth. We ended up kissing and stuff.. then when we said goodbye, she kissed me and said "I love you". Now my rational brain thinks.. "why would she show emotion and tell me she loved me if she really didn't mean it?" I gave her stuff back to her. I told her that this may be the last we see of each other. She said she couldn't imagine it.. and she thought about me all the time. Maybe she is really torn, or can't handle the guilt and pain of saying goodbye forever? I really wish I knew. My heart says that she isn't ready to cut it off forever, but my mind says that it's the only way... Thanks in advance for reading.
Ofleg7 Posted April 6, 2008 Posted April 6, 2008 aw dude. Mind vs heart. Logic vs emotion. I don't know what to say to be honest. If she really does love you, and you love her then . . . . ? I've never been in a LDR, because I know that it'll suck to be apart most of the time. Maybe she just wasn't ready to take the next step at this point. There's still something there, if she's the one who broke it off and then says she thinks about you a lot. I don't know how you feel about it, but if you're in to her, give it some time and maybe think about suggesting a compromise?
Prosecco Posted April 7, 2008 Posted April 7, 2008 You can really care about someone, still have feelings about them, but still know you can't be with someone... And it's hard not to act on these feelings at times - it takes a very strong person. Most people aren't that strong.
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