CarDude2015 Posted April 6, 2008 Posted April 6, 2008 Okay, I need some minor help. I can strike up conversations with the ladies in college like no tomorrow, but I need to be able to learn to read the women that are actually attracted. I am familiar with some of the not-so-subtle attraction cues/signals like: 1. Refusing to let me buy my own coffee and buying it for me. 2. Asking me if I have a GF or not. 3. Never losing focus in what I have to say. 4. Always hanging around and sitting next to me in class, when I don't even ask. 5. Smiling at me and laughing at my jokes (even when they aren't funny). Now, how about the more subtle ones that I might not be aware of? I'd like to be able to read the subtle attraction cues (since not every woman is an open book). I've asked for dates in person rather than obtaining the number, but always seem to be shot down, and I don't want to lose potential friendships that can develop with these women as well. Is that my mistake? Should I just ask for the number up front rather than just asking for the date? Am I coming on way too strong by asking for the date up front?
Author CarDude2015 Posted April 8, 2008 Author Posted April 8, 2008 It's not imperative that I obtain a reply immediately. I'm just having trouble with this one thing - not sure if I should ask for the date up front or the phone number first.
Star Gazer Posted April 8, 2008 Posted April 8, 2008 Ask for the number, but don't bother trying to be friends with these women - focus on the end result you really want.
Author CarDude2015 Posted April 8, 2008 Author Posted April 8, 2008 (edited) You're right. Being a reformed "nice guy" I have a bad habit of second-guessing myself (it's going away), so I won't bother trying to be "just friends". I'm going for the end zone. Thanks for re-affirming that. Now, what are the more subtle attraction cues that women tend to use to let a man know they're attracted? Edited April 8, 2008 by CarDude2015 rephrasing
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