saskradio Posted April 6, 2008 Posted April 6, 2008 I am sure a lot of you have read my long thread in the second chances forum. If not, basically I split with my first love, we dated for a year. I realized that I wanted to get back with her a few months later, at the time she still wanted to get back with me. Unfortunately for me, right when this happened, she started dating a new guy. I have been holding onto hope for a while now (month and a half) because I believed (and still do) that this is a rebound. She is 24, he is 19. All they do is party and do drugs etc. We are a much better fit, we work together and we have fun, but I am the kind of guy that can be there for her in every aspect of her life. Anyways, I am still going to have a bit of hope in the back of my mind, but I am really trying to move on at this point, that is where my new problem arises. I am still in a funk, and I cannot seem to get out of it. Getting women interested in me has never been an issue for me. I am a 22 year old radio star, way above average looking (going against the whole "face for radio" stereotype haha), and a generally nice guy that girls seem to really go for. Since the split though I have lost all of my game. I just cannot seem to instigate new relationships with women and its slowly driving me nuts. As soon as a girl gets to know me for more then 5 mins, I am usually set. I just cannot seem to pick up girls anymore. It is crazy, some friends are baffled at the whole concept and are almost annoyed at me. One even went so far as to say "man, I can't believe you, all you have to do is go to a bar and let people know who you are, and you can have any girl you want". I am sure he is over-stating that a bit, but he is somewhat right. I am looking for some tips, and advice on this. I come home most nights out and I am so frustrated since I could have had every opportunity in the world, but I just can't follow though. My "meeting new women" skills are just gone. The most frustrating part is that if I could somehow fix this, then i know that would be one of the big steps in me getting over my ex.
Ofleg7 Posted April 6, 2008 Posted April 6, 2008 Hey. I followed your story and I was wondering where the updates have been the last few days. Don't rush yourself getting back out there. Give yourself time. I know meeting other girls is probably the best way to take your mind off your ex, but forcing yourself into it isn't a good way to go about it. I'm still recovering myself, and perhaps foolishly still harbour some hope of reconciliation. Well anyway, I contacted a few girls who were into me trying to take my mind off my ex and they just came across far too eager and uh.. scared me off? You're probably finding it harder because you're not quite the same person you were before your last relationship. They might be really minor differences between you now and your former self but the little things matter. It'll come back man, just let it come back naturally. Bars aren't the best places to pick up girls anyway.. well.. depending on what you're looking for. Peace
Lookingforward Posted April 6, 2008 Posted April 6, 2008 Give yourself time, you're still invested emotionally in your ex and new people feel like too much "hard work" right ? Eventually the emotional investment will fade and you'll find your "game" is back. You're young, you may be surprised how quickly you get "up to speed" when it does.
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