wonderinwhatsup Posted April 6, 2008 Posted April 6, 2008 I have gotten so much better over the past few days its hard to describe. I want to thank you guys so much for your help. When my ex told me the plans about her and her new bf going on two beach trips this month and that she would be lonely in the summer for the 2 months he would be away it really got me thinking. I cannot say for certain why she said those things but I have come to 2 conclusions one of which is definitely true. 1. She's mean. Pretty simple really, she said that knowing it would hurt me. My friends agree, saying she knew exactly how her comments would affect me. 2. She's stupid. She is completely oblivious of the pain she has caused me over the past months. Both qualities are very unattractive to me and I can not see myself with someone possessing those traits . She hurt me, thats enough for me. A question for y'all though because I am relatively young on this board. Has anyone ever had an ex actually come back deciding to give the relationship another shot?
wareagle Posted April 6, 2008 Posted April 6, 2008 Yes. I had an ex come back time after time. We spent a year and half going back and forth. Each time we would get back together it would be good for awhile then it would turn sour again, and she would dump me. It does sound to me like your ex is a mean selfish person who cares only about how she feels, and doesn't give a damn about how she hurt you. My ex was the same way throughout each of our breakups, until this last one. Although she has contacted me a few times without me responding I haven't heard from her in over a week. A little part of me wishes she would contact me begging me to take her back again, but this nc thing has really helped me analyze things and hopefully if she does contact me I will be strong enough to cut her down and move on with my life. Goodluck.
MoonlightLover Posted April 6, 2008 Posted April 6, 2008 Ex must stay ex, speaking from experience...the damage done once a relationship has been ended is deep and quite unrepairable no matter how many times you try that trust and self esteem you had has been damaged. Been there done that with the ex...carried on for a long time till eventually he'd hurt me that much so many times i stopped feeling for him at all. If someone can cast you away one day and get you back the other, they'll do it again and again. I've got back with many ex's and they all treated me worse and worse each time. Then they just let it known that they werent bothered about me they'd had their fill, by then it was too late i am very much a messed up person. Be careful, to her you're probably a toy she thinks she can play around with...probably recognises the hold she has on you and likes the power.
stlnsmile Posted April 6, 2008 Posted April 6, 2008 Really proud and amazed at your new found strenght.
Author wonderinwhatsup Posted April 6, 2008 Author Posted April 6, 2008 Thanks, I just hope that it lasts. I find myself thinking about her less and less everyday. That thought scares me though, because I don't want to ever forget what we had. I know some days will be better than others and I really want to thank everyone who has helped me over the past month. Instead of contacting her I've been able to get my thoughts down here. I know that this girl is not right for me right now. I'm a sophomore in college at a big university and I should be out there having fun and meeting other women. Maybe our paths will cross again sometime in the future. I've found this simple quote to be very helpful in my healing. "If you love someone, let them go. If they come back they were always your's, if not then they never were."
stlnsmile Posted April 6, 2008 Posted April 6, 2008 You'll never completely forget what you had, its like a little tatoo on your heart, it will always be there, but you will live and you will breathe and thats what the most imporatant thing is......YOU. Live your life and don't worry, your not gonna forget.
Tormented Posted April 7, 2008 Posted April 7, 2008 A question for y'all though because I am relatively young on this board. Has anyone ever had an ex actually come back deciding to give the relationship another shot? Yes...and I regret it! ~T~
Kman21 Posted April 7, 2008 Posted April 7, 2008 Hey wats up man, glad to see you are feeling better, same for me also, but some days I am not, but time would do the rest. Of course you wont forget her, but sometimes people have to move on, this is how life is, if its meant to be then it is, if it is not, then its not. Good luck man, keep us updated on love shack.
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