Djs3634 Posted April 6, 2008 Posted April 6, 2008 I've gone on 2 dates that went very well.. So well in fact that the 2 women invited me into their homes at the end of the night.. I didn't end up sleeping with them but their was alot of normal making out stuff. The next day or the following day I would text them or call them to try and set up a second date.. Both women didn't return my calls. I'm a pretty realistic guy and I know a bad date when i see one.. I assure you each one of these dates went well Obviously something went wrong.. Can any you girls help me out?
Author Djs3634 Posted April 6, 2008 Author Posted April 6, 2008 Who knows maybe it's as simple as that.. But let's take last night for example if I had bad breath why was she dry humping me for a half hour?
underpants Posted April 6, 2008 Posted April 6, 2008 I don't know? Were these...dates or bringing a girl home from a bar,make out thing? Maybe making out too much made them feel bad about themselves or too much too soon sort of thing. Maybe you should give one unforgettable kiss on a first date and leave them wanting more?
SS49 Posted April 6, 2008 Posted April 6, 2008 maybe she wanted more and you didn't deliver?? how long has it been since you called/texted? maybe she just hasn't a chance to respond yet. It is Saturday night, maybe she's out....
HeavenScent Posted April 6, 2008 Posted April 6, 2008 I think they wanted sex but since nothing happened. They feel rejected, maybe?
witabix Posted April 6, 2008 Posted April 6, 2008 I've gone on 2 dates that went very well.. So well in fact that the 2 women invited me into their homes at the end of the night.. I didn't end up sleeping with them but their was alot of normal making out stuff. The next day or the following day I would text them or call them to try and set up a second date.. Both women didn't return my calls. I'm a pretty realistic guy and I know a bad date when i see one.. I assure you each one of these dates went well Obviously something went wrong.. Can any you girls help me out? Were they neighbours? Sisters? Mother and daughter? Just a thought.....
Author Djs3634 Posted April 6, 2008 Author Posted April 6, 2008 Thanks for the response ..well the first time this happened was last saturday night and i texted her sunday morning.. So obviously she had plenty of time to respond. The text was Just a quick one to let her know how much fun I had.. And the latest happened thursday night.. Before she left we planned on seeing one another sunday.. I texted her today just to confirm and she hasn't responded.. And yup these were definitely dates that all preceded with great conversation and chemistry at dinner
Author Djs3634 Posted April 6, 2008 Author Posted April 6, 2008 I think they wanted sex but since nothing happened. They feel rejected, maybe? Nah trust me i'm no prude lol
HeavenScent Posted April 6, 2008 Posted April 6, 2008 Thanks for the response ..well the first time this happened was last saturday night and i texted her sunday morning.. So obviously she had plenty of time to respond. The text was Just a quick one to let her know how much fun I had.. And the latest happened thursday night.. Before she left we planned on seeing one another sunday.. I texted her today just to confirm and she hasn't responded.. And yup these were definitely dates that all preceded with great conversation and chemistry at dinner She had a lot of time to respond and she didn't. I'd move on, if I were you.
underpants Posted April 6, 2008 Posted April 6, 2008 Is there something that they may have found out about you that was...unsavory?
Author Djs3634 Posted April 6, 2008 Author Posted April 6, 2008 To be honest.. I think i might know what happened with the girl on thursday night but perhaps i'm over thinking it.. After dinner we both had a great time and didn't want the date to end but we didn't know what we wanted to do.. She was really interested in my bulldog during dinner so i invited her over to my place to meet my dog.. So for about an hour we watched a dvd and made out pretty passionately. Soon after she said she needed to go because she had to wake up early for a yoga class (she's a trainer btw) Before I opened the door we made plans to see each other on sunday. At that point I was a little lit and wasn't thinking clearly.. She lived very close to me but had never been to my building before.. I think she was upset that I didn't offer to walk her home or even tell her how to get to the elevator on my floor! I was kicking myself in the head the next morning
Author Djs3634 Posted April 6, 2008 Author Posted April 6, 2008 I don't know? Were these...dates or bringing a girl home from a bar,make out thing? Maybe making out too much made them feel bad about themselves or too much too soon sort of thing. Maybe you should give one unforgettable kiss on a first date and leave them wanting more? You're making sense.. I just always assumed that such passion on a first date is a slam dunk for a second one.. Maybe one memorable kiss is the key
underpants Posted April 6, 2008 Posted April 6, 2008 Yea, that is not so smooth. See a girl safely to her car or home. I also would suggest during the date, when dinner was at an end. Just when you are on the apex of the date and you both don't want it to end... end it, respectfully. Something like. Gosh, time sure did fly by. I've had such a nice time with you. I would love to see you again. Leave her wanting a little more time with you. Also change up the date activities when you do get 2nd and third dates.
SS49 Posted April 6, 2008 Posted April 6, 2008 Can't tell you what's wrong with the first one, maybe she didn't get your text, it's not the most reliable form of communication. I've had it happen a couple times when I sent a friend a text and found out later that they never got it. Either way I wouldn't dwell on it. As for the more recent one, I'd give her till the morning before you write her off, I don't think the elevator thing would bother her too much (wouldn't bother me any) if she needed directions to the elevator or her place she would have asked.
Marin Posted April 6, 2008 Posted April 6, 2008 At this point you just have to try to get over it. Sorry, dude.
Author Djs3634 Posted April 6, 2008 Author Posted April 6, 2008 i kinda realize that... I just want to find out what i did wrong
Marin Posted April 6, 2008 Posted April 6, 2008 Us women out there on the dating scene go through this all the time. There is no rhyme or reason as to why the guy didn't call, just as there is no rhyme or reason as to why this woman isn't calling you back. For some reason she lost interest, or never had it in the first place. It's nothing you did. It's like, you aren't attracted to every single woman in the world, right? Well, this woman isn't attracted to every single guy in the world. Sorry. Really, it feels bad right now but you'll get over it. Get back there on the saddle!
HeavenScent Posted April 6, 2008 Posted April 6, 2008 You should have at least walked her to the elevator. Some girls think it's a deal-breaker. As if the guy they are interested in does not care so much about her... especially after the make out session. You sound like you have no problem getting girls to go on a date with you... so get over these two and have fun with others!
Author Djs3634 Posted April 6, 2008 Author Posted April 6, 2008 Well i'm definitely over them.. I just want to make sure I don't keep making the same mistakes. BTW thanks guys for all your advice I never posted to a forum and it's been very helpful;)
Trialbyfire Posted April 6, 2008 Posted April 6, 2008 Here's a win/win for the drive home. Insist that you drive her home, since it's not safe out by herself, late at night. Tell her you'll drop her car off the next morning, if she's willing to drive you home. This way her car remains at your place and you get to see her the next morning, with the opportunity for you to suggest you take her out for brunch. Courteous and sweet.
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