mopar crazy Posted April 5, 2008 Posted April 5, 2008 Yes, I am taking this from another OW website and was surprised at the answers those women gave. When I was the OW (to a man in a CR, not a MM) I didn't find anything good about it at all. The pain it caused, the tears I shed, there was nothing good about it. However, when I was w/ him I was on cloud nine. So, as an OW what do you find best about being an OW?
Mino Posted April 5, 2008 Posted April 5, 2008 Yes, I am taking this from another OW website and was surprised at the answers those women gave. When I was the OW (to a man in a CR, not a MM) I didn't find anything good about it at all. The pain it caused, the tears I shed, there was nothing good about it. However, when I was w/ him I was on cloud nine. So, as an OW what do you find best about being an OW? I think you summed it up pretty well., I guess not doing his laundry might be another.
Author mopar crazy Posted April 5, 2008 Author Posted April 5, 2008 (edited) I think you summed it up pretty well., I guess not doing his laundry might be another. LOL, yep that laundry one came up a lot. As for me, I would have LIKED (not loved) to have done his laundry. I wish I would have been that much more part of his life to do it. I would have been doing something FOR him. Does that make any sense? When H and I were first dating I had NP going over to his place on my days off (when he was working) and doing his laundry and dishes. It was something I enjoyed doing for him. It wasn't b/c I felt I had to, or he begged me to do it, I wanted to do it. I guess there was time he asked me if I could wash his clothes and I could bring mine over too (didn't have a washer/dryer back then). I even washed his roommates clothes. Edited April 5, 2008 by mopar crazy
Mino Posted April 5, 2008 Posted April 5, 2008 LOL, yep that laundry one came up a lot. As for me, I would have LIKED (not loved) to have done his laundry. I wish I would have been that much more part of his life to do it. I would have been doing something FOR him. Does that make any sense? When H and I were first dating I had NP going over to his place on my days off (when he was working) and doing his laundry and dishes. It was something I enjoyed doing for him. It wasn't b/c I felt I had to, or he begged me to do it, I wanted to do it. I guess there was time he asked me if I could wash his clothes and I could bring mine over too (didn't have a washer/dryer back then). I even washed his roommates clothes. I got another one for ya, " not having to listen to him snore! lol, I dont know, I guess I would love to hear him snore.
Author mopar crazy Posted April 5, 2008 Author Posted April 5, 2008 I got another one for ya, " not having to listen to him snore! lol, I dont know, I guess I would love to hear him snore. I would have loved to be able to sleep next to him all night and wake up in his arms and some lovin b4 we parted, even if he snored all night.
Never_Again Posted April 5, 2008 Posted April 5, 2008 None of it was good and I am happier than I have ever been to be out of it. I take that back, the only good thing was the sex. That's it, though.
LucreziaBorgia Posted April 5, 2008 Posted April 5, 2008 The best part I found was not having to worry about them trying to complicate things and interfere with my own cake eating.
Mino Posted April 5, 2008 Posted April 5, 2008 Yes, I am taking this from another OW website and was surprised at the answers those women gave. When I was the OW (to a man in a CR, not a MM) I didn't find anything good about it at all. The pain it caused, the tears I shed, there was nothing good about it. However, when I was w/ him I was on cloud nine. So, as an OW what do you find best about being an OW?so mopar, just a question. Do you still think about the time you were an ow? How long did it take before you were competely free??? months? years? Tell me your journey and give me some hope.....where did you say enough is enough?
GreenEyedLady Posted April 6, 2008 Posted April 6, 2008 Hmmm, the best thing about being the OW... I got to spend the night with him and he doted on me...Calling me and texting all the time... Taking me out and showing me off... All the weekend getaways... Oh, I guess that is normal stuff. Truth is, very rarely did I feel like the OW. And when I did, I ended it. The best thing about ending it is: That now we're together, and I'm not the other woman anymore. I'm the only one.
Lizzie60 Posted April 6, 2008 Posted April 6, 2008 I would say: the sex not to have to share my house not to hear him snore to know that I'm probably constantly in his mind not to have to worry about how I spend my money we see them under their best behaviour there are soo many benefits of being the OW instead of being the W
HeavenScent Posted April 6, 2008 Posted April 6, 2008 But why be other woman when you can be more with a man that want you all to himself? You can have him to yourself too? I don't see any benefits in being an other woman.
showupbutbroken Posted April 6, 2008 Posted April 6, 2008 I also don't see any. I would have loved to have washed his clothes, cooked for him, been able to wake up and look into his eyes, know his arms were always there to hold me. I would give up everything to be able to have a normal relationship with the love of my life. But being the OW, I had to let him go so we both had a chance to find happiness apart. I will NEVER be the OW again. I put all into this one so I physically and emotionally am incapable of being an OW anymore.
OpenBook Posted April 6, 2008 Posted April 6, 2008 But why be other woman when you can be more with a man that want you all to himself? You can have him to yourself too? What, so I can pour all of my time, energy and self into another person, only to have him get sick of me eventually and cheat on me after we've been M a few years? No thanks. I'd rather be the OW. At least I can escape, get away from him a lot easier.
HeavenScent Posted April 6, 2008 Posted April 6, 2008 What, so I can pour all of my time, energy and self into another person, only to have him get sick of me eventually and cheat on me after we've been M a few years? No thanks. I'd rather be the OW. At least I can escape, get away from him a lot easier. Are you trying to say that all men cheat? If that is so, I am not going to get married! I'm only in my early twenties but the idea of getting married... doesn't seem appealing anymore but that does not mean I would cheat or become an other woman. I love dogs and cats, maybe I'll stick to them.
Lookingforward Posted April 6, 2008 Posted April 6, 2008 But why be other woman when you can be more with a man that want you all to himself? You can have him to yourself too? I don't see any benefits in being an other woman. Easier said than done once you're over a certain age and it seems all the good ones are already married, but that said I can't see any good points to being an OW
HeavenScent Posted April 6, 2008 Posted April 6, 2008 Easier said than done once you're over a certain age and it seems all the good ones are already married, but that said I can't see any good points to being an OW At this point, I don't see the good in being married and an other woman!!
Trialbyfire Posted April 6, 2008 Posted April 6, 2008 Easier said than done once you're over a certain age and it seems all the good ones are already married, but that said I can't see any good points to being an OW This phrase smacks of desperation. I'm 33. Never have been an OW, never will be one. Since reentering the dating pool, I've found that there are more than enough good ones out there, who are single. This excuse to me, is nothing but an excuse, to justify predatory behaviour.
MoonlightLover Posted April 6, 2008 Posted April 6, 2008 You love the man cock, just not what's attached to it. You don't have to worry about being asked to date him. (scary) You don't have to worry about relationship stuff. (is he cheating, do i like him more than he likes me, why is he chatting up my friend etc etc) You lay down the fact that you have no self respect by doing what youre doing already so there's nothing left he can destroy in you as a person. (strangely comforting that he cant make you feel any worse than people have made me feel already) You're getting laid. (obviously a bonus haha) You actually get some sort of affection in your life. (which can be worth it) You get to live in your little bubble of denile for a little bit longer.
Lookingforward Posted April 6, 2008 Posted April 6, 2008 This phrase smacks of desperation. I'm 33. Never have been an OW, never will be one. Since reentering the dating pool, I've found that there are more than enough good ones out there, who are single. This excuse to me, is nothing but an excuse, to justify predatory behaviour. well excuse me, but I wasn't saying I went after a MM because all the good ones are taken LOL (In fact I never went after an MM , period) I'm neither desperate OR predatory, I was just stating a fact - as you age the pool of available partners shrinks.
Lookingforward Posted April 6, 2008 Posted April 6, 2008 This phrase smacks of desperation. I'm 33. Never have been an OW, never will be one. Since reentering the dating pool, I've found that there are more than enough good ones out there, who are single. This excuse to me, is nothing but an excuse, to justify predatory behaviour. And 33 is hardly at that point - wait until you're over 50 and looking LOL
OpenBook Posted April 6, 2008 Posted April 6, 2008 This phrase smacks of desperation. I'm 33. Never have been an OW, never will be one. Since reentering the dating pool, I've found that there are more than enough good ones out there, who are single. This excuse to me, is nothing but an excuse, to justify predatory behaviour. The good ones are already married = predatory behavior??? I don't get it. IMO none of them are good. Not the married ones, not the single ones. I don't want any part of ANY of them. Of course, I may change my mind tomorrow. :D But I doubt it.
Trialbyfire Posted April 6, 2008 Posted April 6, 2008 well excuse me, but I wasn't saying I went after a MM because all the good ones are taken LOL (In fact I never went after an MM , period) I'm neither desperate OR predatory, I was just stating a fact - as you age the pool of available partners shrinks. I don't believe that at all, unless you're talking about the age where men have started to die off. There are plenty of good, available men, who are divorced. What you may find, is that these good, available men, are far more selective, in their criteria of what's an acceptable woman.
Trialbyfire Posted April 6, 2008 Posted April 6, 2008 The good ones are already married = predatory behavior??? I don't get it. IMO none of them are good. Not the married ones, not the single ones. I don't want any part of ANY of them. Of course, I may change my mind tomorrow. :D But I doubt it. Whoah OpenBook! That's pretty cynical. Why so much cynicism towards men? There are some wonderful men, in both categories. One category for arms-length friendship, the other for the possibilities of both friendship and/or romantic relationships.
Lookingforward Posted April 6, 2008 Posted April 6, 2008 I don't believe that at all, unless you're talking about the age where men have started to die off. There are plenty of good, available men, who are divorced. What you may find, is that these good, available men, are far more selective, in their criteria of what's an acceptable woman. meooooooooooooooow:bunny: Did we find the wrong side of the bed this morning ? LOL
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