mortensorchid Posted April 5, 2008 Posted April 5, 2008 Here's a situation that I don't know quite what to do with, besides the obvious that is ... A few weeks ago, I met this man on MySpace. Turns out he found me on a mutual friend's friend list. He emails me and says "I'm not trying to pick you up or anything, but ...". Eventually, we get to chatting. He asked if I'd like to meet, and we do. He's actually much more than what I expected in terms of personality, interests, and shared experiences in life. We're both aging punk rockers who think that 40 is the new 30, just to give a better idea. If that makes any sense to anyone ... So we've been together for a while now, we talk quite a bit during the weeks we've known each other. We've gotten together quite a bit (movies, dinner, etc.). And tonight we have dinner and I invited him over for my Bachelor Sunday Dinner that I have every Sunday with a few guy friends. I brought something up to him that I am concerned about ... A few years ago, I invited this guy I was going out with very briefly (less than 6 weeks) over for one of these dinners. He called the next day and broke it off. Months later, he emailed me out of the blue and told me he regretted breaking things off the way he did, but he felt like he didn't fit in with me and my friends. And he honestly didn't like them much. Yes, I know, I think I made a mistake inviting a new bf with me and three other guy friends. So, I asked him if he would feel intimidated to do this. He said he didn't have a problem with this. Then, I brought up something. When I mentioned that the others all chided me about bringing a new bf in front of 3 guy friends, I said "No, he is my FRIEND. I've been out with him several times now and he hasn't made a pass, and I think he would have by now!". He said something kind of, odd back to me about it (as this was a veiled attempt on my part to ask him if he WAS going to make a pass). He said : "Well, most of my experiences have been drunken pawings in the past. I'm looking for something else now." What does that mean? Please let everyone know that I am perfectly happy that he is my friend, but ... I wouldn't mind if if went another way too.
sally4sara Posted April 6, 2008 Posted April 6, 2008 I would take it as he has jumped quickly to the physical stuff in the past and it yielded nothing great for him. Now he is trying a new approach; friends first. I'd say he is interested. He is just taking it slow, getting to know you to make sure you two are really compatible first.
Orbit Posted April 6, 2008 Posted April 6, 2008 He likes you a lot. He is confused and doesn't want to to blow it, because he has respect for you. Unfortunately, I have recently learned that going slow is not what woman want. He's an idiot make the first move yourself, and don't leave anything to interpretation, he won't get it. Good Luck Sweetheart!
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