sweetbutcheeky Posted April 5, 2008 Posted April 5, 2008 I got an email today in response to a post I put on Craig's list a month ago, I was just venting and was brutally honest. Didn't even think anyone was reading it anymore. Anyway I haven't even responded to him yet but I am curious to what the ppl of LS think he is trying to say. To me it contradicts. "I was just going through your profile and thought i should definitely drop u a message. yes your Lipz caught my eyes and then your writing sounded interesting too. I don't think i am yet to be in a relationship but i do hope to stick to one girl and see where it goes. One night stands are not for me anymore. Strangers have lost their sex appeal to me and at this point of life, i think sex is more about connecting with the other person. Its like this, I woke up one morning with this strange girl next to me and was feeling nothing. No excitement, no good memories and i thought to myself this is it, i wanna wake up with someone i actually know and can have a conversation with in the morning too. ok, anyway to tell you about me, i am 25, 5 feet 7, average built, brown ( i am a bangladeshi), black hair and eyes. I am studying finance in a college and i aim high in my life. I have goals which i am pursuing very passionately. I am a part time marketer and a part time chiller too.Yeah, i work and study my ass off during the weekdays and chill on the weekends, just as the government asked us to do. I love politics, scotch, soccer, rock and roll, concerts, movies and beers. Yeah i love beers. My type of movies are thriller, art films, comedy but i also don't mind watching a romantic flick and cuddle with a girl. I am very passionate about cars and i waste hours on the internet reading about cars and watching them in videos. My idea of a first date, do something romantic or something really fun. Dinner, movies or beach, or just go cart racing and drive our ass off. I have money in my pocket, goals in life, and ambitions to drive me. And yeah i am also attaching my pics with this mail so if u think we have a chance to click and decide to reply me then i would expect to see more of you too. And if u don't, then i wish you a nice life and good luck to find that person who you think will make you happy. bye bye."
Advocate's Devilette Posted April 5, 2008 Posted April 5, 2008 I think he copied and pasted it on several ads most likely. I see what you mean about the contradiction. He is saying 'I am looking for sex. If we hit it off in person, let's have sex. I don't want a relationship, but it is possible you could blow me off my feet and I could want a relationship with you, but I doubt it, I really want just sex.'
carhill Posted April 5, 2008 Posted April 5, 2008 I'm no expert, but it sounds canned to me. Not my style to cover most recent past relationships/ONS/whatever in an introductory e-mail, but maybe I'm weird Contradictory? I don't know. Sounds ESL to me, based on sender's ethnicity. Maybe not purposeful.
Author sweetbutcheeky Posted April 5, 2008 Author Posted April 5, 2008 I'm no expert, but it sounds canned to me. Not my style to cover most recent past relationships/ONS/whatever in an introductory e-mail, but maybe I'm weird Contradictory? I don't know. Sounds ESL to me, based on sender's ethnicity. Maybe not purposeful. True he did go into more info than he needed to for a first email, though could also be part venting. Kinda like my post that he was responding to. I thought contradictory because he said isn't ready for a relationship, but then goes into detail about what he does want which sounds like a definition of relationship to me.
Mary3 Posted April 5, 2008 Posted April 5, 2008 Sounds like a cut and pasted ad he is using to fish in the pond of girls and find one willing to have sex with him Did you find him attractive ?
Replicant Posted April 5, 2008 Posted April 5, 2008 I got an email today in response to a post I put on Craig's list a month ago, I was just venting and was brutally honest. Didn't even think anyone was reading it anymore. Anyway I haven't even responded to him yet but I am curious to what the ppl of LS think he is trying to say. To me it contradicts. "I was just going through your profile and thought i should definitely drop u a message. yes your Lipz caught my eyes and then your writing sounded interesting too. I don't think i am yet to be in a relationship but i do hope to stick to one girl and see where it goes. One night stands are not for me anymore. Strangers have lost their sex appeal to me and at this point of life, i think sex is more about connecting with the other person. Okay so i've quoted a few lines of that and it's already been diced with contradictions. Basically what this class act is saying is you've drawn in his interest with a superficial pair of avatar lips but your writing was kinda interesting also. The dude lacks serious confidence, doesn't know if he wants a relationship or not but would like to stick to just one girl should the situation permit such. Sort of like if you are putting out and it's good he'll take other possibilities off the table. The rest of what he's writing above is just trying to avoid red flags by averting too much talk about sex. Why would someone even post such to lead off about themselves, it sounds desperate and pathetic. Hitting such talk right off the mark does highlight certain intentions even if he's trying to be subtle about it.
Author sweetbutcheeky Posted April 5, 2008 Author Posted April 5, 2008 Okay so i've quoted a few lines of that and it's already been diced with contradictions. Basically what this class act is saying is you've drawn in his interest with a superficial pair of avatar lips but your writing was kinda interesting also. The dude lacks serious confidence, doesn't know if he wants a relationship or not but would like to stick to just one girl should the situation permit such. Sort of like if you are putting out and it's good he'll take other possibilities off the table. The rest of what he's writing above is just trying to avoid red flags by averting too much talk about sex. Why would someone even post such to lead off about themselves, it sounds desperate and pathetic. Hitting such talk right off the mark does highlight certain intentions even if he's trying to be subtle about it. They were actually my real lips LOL (To answer the question, yes I think he is attractive) I haven't responded to him yet or haven't decided if I will. But goes to show another example of the type of guys that find me. And why I asked the question in my other thread lol.
carhill Posted April 5, 2008 Posted April 5, 2008 Can I see a picture of your brain? Seriously, posting pictures of body parts is going to attract men who fixate on those parts wrt the totality of who you are. That's a certain type of man. I would've likely passed the posting up without prejudice and I like women's lips as long as they're part of a woman I love. Do you see where I'm going with this?
Author sweetbutcheeky Posted April 5, 2008 Author Posted April 5, 2008 Can I see a picture of your brain? Seriously, posting pictures of body parts is going to attract men who fixate on those parts wrt the totality of who you are. That's a certain type of man. I would've likely passed the posting up without prejudice and I like women's lips as long as they're part of a woman I love. Do you see where I'm going with this? Oh brother! Did I say it was only a picture of my lips?
eric82 Posted April 5, 2008 Posted April 5, 2008 But goes to show another example of the type of guys that find me. And why I asked the question in my other thread lol. If this is the kind of guy bringing up the topic of sex, I feel sorry for you... how do you keep from laughing right in his face?
carhill Posted April 5, 2008 Posted April 5, 2008 Oh brother! Did I say it was only a picture of my lips? No, you didn't, but yes your Lipz caught my eyes and your avatar here suggest this is an attribute which you either like or present at the forefront. Just going by what I see and read
Author sweetbutcheeky Posted April 5, 2008 Author Posted April 5, 2008 If this is the kind of guy bringing up the topic of sex, I feel sorry for you... how do you keep from laughing right in his face? LOL this guy is nothing compared to the rest of them that I was referring to! No, you didn't, but and your avatar here suggest this is an attribute which you either like or present at the forefront. Just going by what I see and read Sorry no wasn't that pic, though lips are the same! hee hee
TheFonz Posted April 5, 2008 Posted April 5, 2008 I didn't see any contradiction in his email. All he said basically was "I want a relationship but I don't know if I'm ready for one." A person could want any number of things and still not be sure about it.
Author sweetbutcheeky Posted April 5, 2008 Author Posted April 5, 2008 I didn't see any contradiction in his email. All he said basically was "I want a relationship but I don't know if I'm ready for one." A person could want any number of things and still not be sure about it. What I read was first saying he wasn't ready for a relationship but then said he wanted memories, one woman, excitement, someone he has feelings for. Hmm the second part sounds like what you get in a relationship to me!
TheFonz Posted April 5, 2008 Posted April 5, 2008 What I read was first saying he wasn't ready for a relationship but then said he wanted memories, one woman, excitement, someone he has feelings for. Hmm the second part sounds like what you get in a relationship to me! What he is saying he wants and apreciates the good things in a relationship but he's uncertain if he can get that and he's uncertain of the bad things that come with a relationship.
Author sweetbutcheeky Posted April 5, 2008 Author Posted April 5, 2008 Side thought. I hope he doesn't mean that he wants sex with one woman and someone to have fun and share things with. All the perks of having a relationship without commitment. I have had guys tell me that's what they want before, don't have the time (or want to commit) but want the sex and someone to spend time with when they have it. All the perks, no effort, time or commitment. That really pisses me off! These guys never get it when I ask them why they should get all the perks and not have to put anything in. They say ya, what's wrong with that? I say I hope this isn't the case not because of him, just because it pisses me off more each time a guy says that to me! I don't mean FWB, cause that's just sex. I mean someone who wants to do date things, have someone to do those things with so they aren't alone but not really care about you, but in the time to you or commit to you.
TheFonz Posted April 5, 2008 Posted April 5, 2008 Side thought. I hope he doesn't mean that he wants sex with one woman and someone to have fun and share things with. All the perks of having a relationship without commitment. I have had guys tell me that's what they want before, don't have the time (or want to commit) but want the sex and someone to spend time with when they have it. All the perks, no effort, time or commitment. That really pisses me off! These guys never get it when I ask them why they should get all the perks and not have to put anything in. They say ya, what's wrong with that? I say I hope this isn't the case not because of him, just because it pisses me off more each time a guy says that to me! I don't mean FWB, cause that's just sex. I mean someone who wants to do date things, have someone to do those things with so they aren't alone but not really care about you, but in the time to you or commit to you. I don't understand this reasoning. You make it sound like a guy has to be ready to propose to you before you can do anything with him. You build a relationship, it doesn't start out as a relationship from ground zero.
Author sweetbutcheeky Posted April 5, 2008 Author Posted April 5, 2008 I don't understand this reasoning. You make it sound like a guy has to be ready to propose to you before you can do anything with him. You build a relationship, it doesn't start out as a relationship from ground zero. That's not what I mean at all. It's something separate to FWB or a natural building of a relationship. There are some guys that want all the perks what you would bet from a relationship, but not put in the time for it to grow. Want sex, want to have someone to do things with, someone to call on when they need a guest and so on. Want to have one person to have sex with one person, go to movies or whatever. But don't have the time to put in, or want to be committed, want an "on call GF" pretty much but are still single
eric82 Posted April 5, 2008 Posted April 5, 2008 That's not what I mean at all. It's something separate to FWB or a natural building of a relationship. There are some guys that want all the perks what you would bet from a relationship, but not put in the time for it to grow. Want sex, want to have someone to do things with, someone to call on when they need a guest and so on. Want to have one person to have sex with one person, go to movies or whatever. But don't have the time to put in, or want to be committed, want an "on call GF" pretty much but are still single Guys who want an on call girlfriend do it because it puts them in control, lets them avoid getting too emotionally attached and at the same time leaves them free to explore other options (girls, partying, whatever) without feeling guilty because they're not officially committed to you. Good for you for not settling for that.
Author sweetbutcheeky Posted April 5, 2008 Author Posted April 5, 2008 Guys who want an on call girlfriend do it because it puts them in control, lets them avoid getting too emotionally attached and at the same time leaves them free to explore other options (girls, partying, whatever) without feeling guilty because they're not officially committed to you. Good for you for not settling for that. I don't know if that is what this guy's deal is. But for the guys who want this it makes me so mad, why do they think they deserve all the perks that I would give but not have to give anything back. Cake and eat it too. Thanks. I would never settle for it, I call them out on it but of course they never get it.
TheFonz Posted April 5, 2008 Posted April 5, 2008 There are some guys that want all the perks what you would bet from a relationship, but not put in the time for it to grow. Want sex, want to have someone to do things with, someone to call on when they need a guest and so on. Want to have one person to have sex with one person, go to movies or whatever. But don't have the time to put in, or want to be committed, want an "on call GF" pretty much but are still single Maybe some people need and enjoy more space prior to the point of marrying ssomeone? I really don't see where you made a clear distinction between a guy who is "worthy" and one that is "unworthy".
TheFonz Posted April 5, 2008 Posted April 5, 2008 I don't know if that is what this guy's deal is. But for the guys who want this it makes me so mad, why do they think they deserve all the perks that I would give but not have to give anything back. Cake and eat it too. Thanks. I would never settle for it, I call them out on it but of course they never get it. I don't get it either because I still don't know what these hypothetical type of guys aren't giving you. I don't see any distinction. The only thing I can think of is you want the guy to constanly prove somehow his devotion and attachment to you. I assume this would give you security. But wouldn't this risk being too much too fast? And wouldn't this be a huge risk of loss if you decided to pull away or walk away? If you want devotion you have to reward and reciprocate devotion. But if not that, I'm not sure what it is exactly that these "other types" of guys aren't giving?
Author sweetbutcheeky Posted April 6, 2008 Author Posted April 6, 2008 I don't get it either because I still don't know what these hypothetical type of guys aren't giving you. I don't see any distinction. The only thing I can think of is you want the guy to constanly prove somehow his devotion and attachment to you. I assume this would give you security. But wouldn't this risk being too much too fast? And wouldn't this be a huge risk of loss if you decided to pull away or walk away? If you want devotion you have to reward and reciprocate devotion. But if not that, I'm not sure what it is exactly that these "other types" of guys aren't giving? Your right, you don't get it. Just like the guys who want that kind of situation. I can't make you understand.
sid33 Posted April 6, 2008 Posted April 6, 2008 First of all, a guy who tries to impress you with how frequently he has one nitestands is full of ****. More than likely he is not getting laid at all. But from this single guy's perspective, it sounds like he is desperately trying to. I would doubt the fact that the picture he has presented is really him. If I were a woman reading stuff like that I would be going out to buy a can of pepper spray.
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