Meg4131 Posted April 5, 2008 Posted April 5, 2008 I met this really sweet guy a few months ago, but we really began to interact only in the past week and a half. We see each other in a weekly meeting, but other than that there hasn’t been any interaction…until earlier this week. He was very persistent in trying to get my phone number, which I gave to him and he preceded to text me quite often. He also called once, but I was unable to answer, so not wanting to hurt his feelings, I returned his phone call and it consisted of a really awkward pause…not good. I was really embarrassed, but he texted me right afterwards and said that he was sorry and was caught in traffic so he hadn’t been able to focus. It was a little uncomfortable after that but I text messaged him the next day and we seemed to go back to our regular messages. However, I’m really tired of just text messaging- I’d really like him to ask me out somewhere. Today, he texted to let me know that he was going to go eat and I honestly expected him to ask me if I wanted to go along. But….nope. He seems very sweet and I’d really like to get to know him better, but I’m not sure if he’s interested or not. This text messaging without person to person interaction isn’t good and I don’t want it to go on. I don’t want to completely throw myself at him if he’s trying to brush off, but I’d really like to make sure that he knows I’m interested. Am I wasting my time here or should I wait it out a little longer? Could he just be shy or is he just brushing me off?
thehappycynic Posted April 5, 2008 Posted April 5, 2008 I think he's interested, but you're clearly going to have to make the first move. (God, I HATE that!) I'd only put myself out there once, though. Invite him to lunch, and see what happens. But then again, it has only been a week and a half. Some guys take a month or more ...
Author Meg4131 Posted April 5, 2008 Author Posted April 5, 2008 I HATE that too! Do you think he's so shy that he'd turn down a lunch or coffee offer? I don't want to make a pest of myself if he's not really interested...
sweetbutcheeky Posted April 5, 2008 Posted April 5, 2008 Maybe if you tell him you would rather talk on the phone vs txt messaging that will help. If he talks about going out to eat in person, maybe then you could hint that your hungry and he may get the hint!
I am who I am Posted April 5, 2008 Posted April 5, 2008 (edited) Could he just be shy or is he just brushing me off?Yes I wouldn't ask him out on a date. Rather, do something you would normally do, and see if he wants to tag along (seriously, do not go about this by "asking" him to join you, just "tell" him to.... "Hey, I'm going "wherever", you should tag along with me). This reframes the situation in your favor. You do not come out looking desperate by "asking" Him out. You now come off as a woman that has a full and interesting life, and you are now inviting him into your world. Edited April 5, 2008 by I am who I am
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