TheFonz Posted April 4, 2008 Posted April 4, 2008 Is love really just a need too feel a certain emotion and an emotion women have? Not too diffrent from any other fleeting emotion as person has that may not even be based on anything of sound reasoning? I notice that girls will often be in "love" with a guy, and he's so wonderful and he can do no wrong. Then a few weeks later be in love with another guy, and the last can do no right now. Is love really nothing more than a fleeting emotion that women need to feel and can only feel for one man for the most part at a time? I also learned that I could make myself fall in love with a woman by just watxhing her and thinking and fantaizing about her. But the problem was I never bothered to talk her into having the same feelings as me beforehand. So I would seem like a nice guy. That was the worst situation a guy could be in. So I quickly stopped doing that, and I stopped believing in love all together. Hmm, maybe I'm also describing how I becamea bad boy/player. Life showed me I had no choice it was play "dirty" or lose.
Author TheFonz Posted April 4, 2008 Author Posted April 4, 2008 It's all down to a magic chemical called dopamine. But I don't trust druggies .
Chinook Posted April 5, 2008 Posted April 5, 2008 Oh... you can't buy dopamine m'dear. It's produced by the brain. If you could buy dopamine on the street there'd be far more dopamine addicts than there are crack, heroin, dope and any other drug you can think of!
Author TheFonz Posted April 5, 2008 Author Posted April 5, 2008 Oh... you can't buy dopamine m'dear. It's produced by the brain. If you could buy dopamine on the street there'd be far more dopamine addicts than there are crack, heroin, dope and any other drug you can think of! What, and not that I'm fully accepting it's just dopamine, I'm saying is certain drugs work on dopamine. My point is that love is just a flaky emotion not based on sound reasoning. And I wouldn't trust someone on a love fix any more than I would a druggie on a drug fix.
Chinook Posted April 5, 2008 Posted April 5, 2008 Exactly my point. 'Love' is nothing more than chemicals. People who react to the heightened emotions involved at the start of a relationship are experiencing the dopamine shot. That's why so many people move on so quickly. Unfortunately most people are entirely earnest when they 'feel' these things and so the likes of you and I don't know the difference either way. It has very little to do with sound reasoning... the same way why any guy can't say why he likes red hair over dark, or blonde hair over red etc. Nothing to do with love is ever based on sound reasoning... if that's what you're looking for... you will wait a lonnnng time.
Art_Critic Posted April 5, 2008 Posted April 5, 2008 there is another thread going that was started this morning on this very subject.. sort of... http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t148996/
whichwayisup Posted April 5, 2008 Posted April 5, 2008 Life showed me I had no choice it was play "dirty" or lose. You always have a choice. Let me ask you, are you happy? The way you've set yourself up to be with women, you'll never experience real deep love that is long lasting. You have a chip on your shoulder and think the worst of women. Infact, I wonder if you hate women in general since your attitude certainly is giving that impression. It's sad because you ARE you going to miss out on alot of good feelings and amazing experiences.
Author TheFonz Posted April 5, 2008 Author Posted April 5, 2008 Exactly my point. 'Love' is nothing more than chemicals. People who react to the heightened emotions involved at the start of a relationship are experiencing the dopamine shot. That's why so many people move on so quickly. Unfortunately most people are entirely earnest when they 'feel' these things and so the likes of you and I don't know the difference either way. It has very little to do with sound reasoning... the same way why any guy can't say why he likes red hair over dark, or blonde hair over red etc. Nothing to do with love is ever based on sound reasoning... if that's what you're looking for... you will wait a lonnnng time. This wasn't really my point although it is true with a lot of people, especially women. When I use to fall in love with was based on sound reasoning. For instance, I could say why I wouldn't like blondes for a sound reaon, thy tend to get higher rates of skin cancer, wrinkles, and osteporosis. Another reason I like young girls is because they're more fertile, etc. The reason I like good looking girls because it's been shown scientifically they have less genetic defects and have healthier offspring etc, etc. But I dont agree with you that having a preference even if you don't have a good reason for it makes it unsound. That is, I knew what I liked regardless of why I liked it, and thats what I fell for. But with women they are just in lovebased on an emotion of love. If they're in love the guy can do no wrong, and when they fall out of love the same guy doing the same things can do know right. So I should rephrase this that I believed in my love, but I learned that women don't really care about a guy's love and they're love can't be believed in. So I no longer love women or believe in their love.
Author TheFonz Posted April 5, 2008 Author Posted April 5, 2008 You always have a choice. Let me ask you, are you happy? The way you've set yourself up to be with women, you'll never experience real deep love that is long lasting. You have a chip on your shoulder and think the worst of women. Infact, I wonder if you hate women in general since your attitude certainly is giving that impression. It's sad because you ARE you going to miss out on alot of good feelings and amazing experiences. No I'm saying I favor reason over love. I think a FWB is having more than a girl who is in "love".
Author TheFonz Posted April 5, 2008 Author Posted April 5, 2008 there is another thread going that was started this morning on this very subject.. sort of... http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t148996/ OK I'll have to check that out.
whichwayisup Posted April 5, 2008 Posted April 5, 2008 No I'm saying I favor reason over love. I think a FWB is having more than a girl who is in "love". Then you haven't experienced true love both ways yet. When it happens to you and the right woman comes into your life, trust me, you won't want just FWB.
Author TheFonz Posted April 5, 2008 Author Posted April 5, 2008 Then you haven't experienced true love both ways yet. When it happens to you and the right woman comes into your life, trust me, you won't want just FWB. But the fact remains that for most women the love part is not based on reasoning, and as I explained earlier I don't trust in it or value her love.
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