confusedandempty Posted April 4, 2008 Posted April 4, 2008 There is this girl, how many posts have started like this?? We go to the same college. She is very attractive, good looking, fit and smart. She's a material that every guy would be proud to present to his mother. Not just like every other hot chick. We were quite flirty back in January/February but nothing happaned, except from few dances, talks and things like that. I feel really comfortable around her and when we talk. But somehow I just can't find the time to ask her on a date. She's always with her friends, or studying hard at school, or never the right place, or never...I can find endless excuses. My friends kept telling me to be quick before someone else will!. But I didn't... and now there is another guy. I just heard earlier tonight that her friend put her up on a date with a guy a week ago and she went. That tells us that she's open and looking. I know this guy was hitting on her back in February but she didn't seemed interested. I don't know if she just simply wasn't or because I was present. This was a night a hung out with her and her friends after a school thing. But I figured out that if I were gonna hang with them like this, it would be the quickest ride ever in the friendszone. So instead of just asking her out, I backed off and stopped spending much time with them. I'm quite attractive guy, I'm funny (at least people tell me so) and people love being with me. I believe I'm smart and I'm not shy. I can talk to any girl in the world, but when I start developing feelings toward her...I close down and can't work! There is 1,5 years since I broke up with my ex and I'm 95% over her. I think I will only be 95% over until I find the extra 5% in a new girl. So instead of just ask the #"$"$%" girl out. I go to sleep and sometimes my wanders back to my ex ... which I don't give a **** about anymore. What should I do now?? She didn't seemed interested in the guy once when I saw them together. Her friend is hooking her up. I have no idea what the situation is between them ... It's just silly to let an attractive women walk away without even trying. Do you guys have any ideas for me, I feel like such a failure!!
carhill Posted April 4, 2008 Posted April 4, 2008 Just imagine her sitting on the loo taking a dump. That'll fix things Seriously, as an average-looking guy, I likely don't have good advice for you, but that won't stop me..... When you hang out, linger with her to get some alone time, even if only a few minutes. I'll assume you two share some interests. I'll take music for example. Prior, find a cool local gig that reflects your shared taste (or just yours if she appears flexible) and merely tell her "I'm going to see xxx band on xxx and I'd love for you to join me". If she says sounds great, there ya go. If she declines or is unsure, merely say something like, while smiling "OK, I'll be sure to give you a full review!" or something like that. Don't show disappointment. Always be positive. You might be surprised by future actions. Regardless, you asked and got an answer and can move forward. Clarity
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