Star Gazer Posted April 4, 2008 Posted April 4, 2008 Shocked. That was pretty quick. I guess I'm really, really over him now... I have no choice!!
Author Star Gazer Posted April 4, 2008 Author Posted April 4, 2008 We did everything within our power to ensure I didn't get pregnant - I was on the pill and we used condoms... Then we stopped using condoms but when I need to go on antibiotics we went back to condoms and I used Plan B (once). Apparently he's been having unprotected sex a few times with her. She's not on the pill... WTF was he thinking??
johan Posted April 4, 2008 Posted April 4, 2008 You don't seem too upset about it. It's good if you can find out about something like this and feel no jealousy or sadness. And aren't you glad it's not you.
Author Star Gazer Posted April 4, 2008 Author Posted April 4, 2008 I'm sad, but it's a weird kind of sadness. Kinda like, "Well, he wants to make it work with a virtual stranger, but he didn't with me." An ego thing, perhaps. But yes... I'm absolutely thanking every god and deity imaginable that it wasn't me.
Author Star Gazer Posted April 4, 2008 Author Posted April 4, 2008 Actually... no. I'm about to cry. Dunno why though.
Pyro Posted April 4, 2008 Posted April 4, 2008 How long have they been together? This could be a good or bad thing.
0hpenelope Posted April 4, 2008 Posted April 4, 2008 Actually... no. I'm about to cry. Dunno why though. I can't even fathom how hard this must be for you..
Author Star Gazer Posted April 4, 2008 Author Posted April 4, 2008 How long have they been together? This could be a good or bad thing. Ohh.... since right after SuperBowl or so?
Pyro Posted April 4, 2008 Posted April 4, 2008 Ohh.... since right after SuperBowl or so? Thats not a whole lot of time to get to know each other. Now that they have a kid (assuming she is keeping it) together he is bound to her, so if they get to know each other and find out that they aren't compatible, then they are screwed. Another reason why divorces are so high in numbers.
PinkKittyKat Posted April 4, 2008 Posted April 4, 2008 I'm sad, but it's a weird kind of sadness. Kinda like, "Well, he wants to make it work with a virtual stranger, but he didn't with me." An ego thing, perhaps. But yes... I'm absolutely thanking every god and deity imaginable that it wasn't me. This has happened to me too. I always feel like I "dodged a bullet". Actually... no. I'm about to cry. Dunno why though. Yeah, I'm familiar with that feeling too. *hugs* It gets better. Wishing you the best.
tkgirl Posted April 4, 2008 Posted April 4, 2008 I'm so sorry stargazer... how long were you with this guy? just curious... anyways, it will take some time but you will realize that when those things happen it's really one of those meant to be... or rather, NOT meant to be kind of thing. When it happened to me, it did hurt... but then I realized how happy I was that it was NOT me that got pregnant by him! But my ex was a jerk... he would still come "sniffing around" every now and then.. kind of a FWB thing, but not really.. know what I mean? Anyways, the last time he booty called me I told him "no and never again" and next thing I know about a month later he had gotten this girl pregnant and they were getting MARRIED! I didn't even know he had a "girlfriend"... and all the while he was still trying to get with me too! so... yeah dodged a huge bullet there! I just felt sorry for her though... So... just thought I'd share my story... you hang in there girl.. you WILL realize you are so lucky that it isn't you!
Art_Critic Posted April 5, 2008 Posted April 5, 2008 Count your lucky chickens SG.. You dodged a huge bullet with that loser.. Something tells me that you don't know the whole story with his GF...He will never tell you the whole story.. Please STOP all contact with him..
Author Star Gazer Posted April 5, 2008 Author Posted April 5, 2008 During the entire time we were together, he never changed his status to "In a Relationship." But he JUST did for this girl.
whichwayisup Posted April 5, 2008 Posted April 5, 2008 I am sorry to hear that it's upset you so much. I don't know what to say except that this is proof that he was a DUD and not worth your time. Hope you feel better and don't let this get you down. Maybe in afew weeks you'll feel happy for him and wish him the best.
johan Posted April 5, 2008 Posted April 5, 2008 During the entire time we were together, he never changed his status to "In a Relationship." But he JUST did for this girl. What kind of bastard would he have to be in order not to do that? In fact, he should be just getting rid of the profile altogether. Keep in mind it has taken him from the time he found out about her until now to make that change. Don't think about it too much.
MalachiX Posted April 5, 2008 Posted April 5, 2008 Sounds like it hurts a lot. On the up side, perhaps gives you some closure. It's over. Even if he wanted you back and you him it just wouldn't work. During the entire time we were together, he never changed his status to "In a Relationship." But he JUST did for this girl. I fully believe that Facebook was created to make people feel bad about their EX's. Aside from the fact that it lets you stalk them instead of letting go, it has that wonderful broken heart icon when you guys split up. I hear in the next upgrade, they're actually going to have people who come to your house and kick you in the nuts (not sure what the female protocal will be).
mishy Posted April 5, 2008 Posted April 5, 2008 I fully believe that Facebook was created to make people feel bad about their EX's. Aside from the fact that it lets you stalk them instead of letting go, it has that wonderful broken heart icon when you guys split up. I hear in the next upgrade, they're actually going to have people who come to your house and kick you in the nuts (not sure what the female protocal will be). :laugh::laugh: I completely agree. I think that facebook and myspace make a whole lot of people take a whole lot longer to get over relationships. And yes, it seems like it would be sooo easy to stalk an ex using facebook. Don't even have to leave the house to stalk someone anymore,, geez. For all those reasons, I dont even have a profile on either of those sites. I saw someone wearing a tshirt and it said "FACEBOOK RUINED MY LIFE". lol
underpants Posted April 5, 2008 Posted April 5, 2008 Oh well. Sounds like a unplanned occurance. Kind of sad that this inspires him to be "in a relationship". Now they will have to make it up as they go along with the added pressure of an unplanned pregnancy. If anything you should feel relieved and a little sad for him and his choices. I would not envy that set of circumstances at all. The Universe was looking out for you. ...edit, Malachix...too funny.
tkgirl Posted April 5, 2008 Posted April 5, 2008 :laugh::laugh: I completely agree. I think that facebook and myspace make a whole lot of people take a whole lot longer to get over relationships. And yes, it seems like it would be sooo easy to stalk an ex using facebook. Don't even have to leave the house to stalk someone anymore,, geez. For all those reasons, I dont even have a profile on either of those sites. I saw someone wearing a tshirt and it said "FACEBOOK RUINED MY LIFE". lol so true! I'm glad I'm not alone in this... I actually had to make a little sticker that's like the "no smoking" sign (red circle with a red line across the cig) only it's a "no myspace" and I stuck on top of my computer moniter! It's kind of addicting to keep looking on "his" site, what girl was posting on it etc. but after a while it was becoming too painful... I'd rather NOT know... and NOT think about HIM anymore!!!
sb129 Posted April 5, 2008 Posted April 5, 2008 Well, put it this way. As well as you dodging the bullet (can you imagine how unsupportive he would have been to you if you had been the one to get pregnant?) you are still single with your options wide open, and one of those options is to one day have children with someone you love and who loves you. ExBF on the other hand is about to enter a very difficult phase of his life (and we all know how "well" he copes with stress). His fledgling relationship is now going to be put to the ultimate test of having a new baby in 8-9mths time. Even strong happy LTRs can be tested by the arrival of a baby, and your ex has barely had time to get to know his new GFs full name, let alone fall in love. I feel sorry for the baby.
Author Star Gazer Posted April 5, 2008 Author Posted April 5, 2008 Well, put it this way. As well as you dodging the bullet (can you imagine how unsupportive he would have been to you if you had been the one to get pregnant?) you are still single with your options wide open, and one of those options is to one day have children with someone you love and who loves you. ExBF on the other hand is about to enter a very difficult phase of his life (and we all know how "well" he copes with stress). His fledgling relationship is now going to be put to the ultimate test of having a new baby in 8-9mths time. Even strong happy LTRs can be tested by the arrival of a baby, and your ex has barely had time to get to know his new GFs full name, let alone fall in love. I feel sorry for the baby. All great points, SB. I know that if I had been the one to get pregnant, he would have... blamed me, and been mad, and not been supportive. I'm thankful that I still have my options open and have a happy life ahead of me. I'm sad, but I don't think for myself. I'm sad for him. I'm sad for her. And yes, I'm sad for the baby... assuming they keep it.
sb129 Posted April 5, 2008 Posted April 5, 2008 Yes, it is sad. They made this bed though, and they will have to lie in it. Goodness, it really has been a bit of a merry-go-round for you in the last six months sweetie- sure you don't want to get off and come investigate the British Bachelors over here?
Author Star Gazer Posted April 5, 2008 Author Posted April 5, 2008 Yup. Quite the revolving door... story of my life.
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