LearningToFly Posted April 4, 2008 Posted April 4, 2008 Alright so after my incident of calling too much in one day about a week ago, I haven't heard from the bf. I figure he's 1) Busy with work or 2) Annoyed with me. I called today and left a vm apologizing for my freak-out, letting him know I'm still planning to come visit him the middle of this month and that no matter what I'm here for him. That's it, one phone call. I don't know if calling was the best thing to do, but after NC for awhile I figured it was the only thing I am able to do. Does this sound okay???
Maggs Posted April 4, 2008 Posted April 4, 2008 Hmm...well seeing as how you've had no contact, I would have probably done the same thing. Just left a quick and cool msg with him. That way the ball is in his court now. Give him a couple of days to respond.
pdslt Posted April 5, 2008 Posted April 5, 2008 I agree with Maggs, give at least a couple of days. The ball is totally in his court now and you'll have to accept that you have no control of the outcome. Patience and acceptance are your best allies now. Don't keep trying to make contact, if you know he's got your message you've done what you can, more attempts will only work against you.
Lizzie60 Posted April 5, 2008 Posted April 5, 2008 Alright so after my incident of calling too much in one day about a week ago, I haven't heard from the bf. I figure he's 1) Busy with work or 2) Annoyed with me. I called today and left a vm apologizing for my freak-out, letting him know I'm still planning to come visit him the middle of this month and that no matter what I'm here for him. That's it, one phone call. I don't know if calling was the best thing to do, but after NC for awhile I figured it was the only thing I am able to do. Does this sound okay??? I would say he's annoyed.. why don't you leave him alone? No matter what, you're here for him.. and what if he doesn't want you around ... My only advice : leave him alone..
Advocate's Devilette Posted April 5, 2008 Posted April 5, 2008 I know it is difficult but you shouldn't have called. I think you might not be too compatible because you are more needy and he is more independent. Either that, or there is a strong possibility he isn't as into you as you are into him. Either way, he's pulling the "disappearing" method of breaking up with you, in my opinion. Sorry, that's harsh, but be ready for it. Don't call him anymore. Consider his silence your ticket to go out and have fun with other guys! Alright so after my incident of calling too much in one day about a week ago, I haven't heard from the bf. I figure he's 1) Busy with work or 2) Annoyed with me. I called today and left a vm apologizing for my freak-out, letting him know I'm still planning to come visit him the middle of this month and that no matter what I'm here for him. That's it, one phone call. I don't know if calling was the best thing to do, but after NC for awhile I figured it was the only thing I am able to do. Does this sound okay???
Miad's Princess Posted April 5, 2008 Posted April 5, 2008 Hmm. You had a moment of maddness lol, I really don't think he should be giving you the silent treatment and not contacting you, if this has bothered him a lot then he should be able to talk to you about it. That's really important in relationships especially LDR to be able to communicate. I have been known to call my SO constantly (although not often) not because I am seeking something just simply out of boardom, maybe his tolerance level is higher although sometimes he will say he needs to spend more time with others lol. Still though he communicates his feelings clearly and doesn't dissappear not even for a day at a time never mind a week. If your guy loves you and cares about you he wouldn't do this would he? Best Wishes hun hope you hear from him soon!
Author LearningToFly Posted April 7, 2008 Author Posted April 7, 2008 Thanks for all your replies, as for you negative people... he had a VERY valid reason for not calling. Things are fine now and I will be seeing him in 11 days.
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