pepine Posted April 4, 2008 Posted April 4, 2008 After your first date with a girl, have you ever emailed, called or texted a girl several times saying you would like to see her again, even asking when she was free, but had no real intention of seeing her again and if so, why did you do it? This has happend to me recently. He kept in touch for about a month after our date, but in the end he just cut off the contact... Eventually I sent him a text, trying to figure out what was going on. He replied saying it was nice to hear from me and he really wants to see me... but after I suggested a time to meet up he again did not respond....
Nocturnal Posted April 4, 2008 Posted April 4, 2008 You said he kept in touch for a month after your date, but did you actually go on any other dates after your first during that month or were you (or he) unavailable to do so? And during that month, who were the most active at keeping in touch? Granted, I would never say I want to meet someone and then dont, but I would drop contact with someone if I didn't feel like I was getting anywhere with them.
Author pepine Posted April 4, 2008 Author Posted April 4, 2008 We had one date and during that date he suggested that we should go out for dinner some time. After the date I sent him a thanks for the evening text and from then on it was him who initiated contact and asked if I was free... I told him when I was free and that I would like to see him again. So, he knew, that I was interested. The last chat we had (he was the one starting the chat) he said he can't wait to come back to my town and go out for dinner with me... It sounded really nice and I really thought he meant what he said... But then the contact stopped... until the final text message to which he replied he really wants to see me again, but after suggesting a time he didnt bother to reply...
Cov Posted April 4, 2008 Posted April 4, 2008 This has happened to me before with a girl, we went on a date and then arranged another one and she just cut off contact. Unlike you I didn't beat myself up about it, it was her loss and it's his loss, if you look at the whole crazy dating scene with this perspective, you'll be fine about this issue. I suggest you find someone else, because I'm certain he probably has found someone else. If he comes back, just show him the door and carry on with life as per usual.
carhill Posted April 4, 2008 Posted April 4, 2008 OP, while I agree with others regarding investing more time in this (don't), I am curious about how much you really got to know about each other, both at your initial date and in the time prior to him cutting contact. I would opine this is especially important with a LDR (I'm assuming "coming to your town" implies this). Thoughts? Personally, I've never "disappeared". I take the bullet and am honest if I don't see any future for myself. I'm likely old enough to be your father though so take it for what it's worth.
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