LearningToFly Posted April 4, 2008 Posted April 4, 2008 Hi Ya'll! First timer here. I'm 25, my bf is 23. We have been together for a little less than a year (8 months and counting) 4 months ago he had to move to Florida from Colorado to deal with some family things and what-not. Before he left, he gave me a ring and said "This ring is to remind you that there are good guys out there, me being one of them, and that I will be back for you, I promise." I gave him a picture of me with a sweet note on the back. Since he's been gone we've spoken on the phone a couple times a week. Sometimes we have really long convos, sometimes not so much. His work schedule differs from my school and work schedule so getting ahold of one-another is difficult. I'm planning to visit him the middle of this month. The last good convo we had, he said he moved my picture from the mirror in his room to his wallet so he could see my face everytime he needed to be cheered up. he said he was looking forward to seeing me. Well a few days later I for some reason felt the urge to talk to him everyday, so I called everyday. And we talked everyday. Then one day I called MANY MANY Times. I only got ahold of him once, but I know he has caller id so he saw how much I called... He usually answers the phone pretty cheerfully when he knows its me and says "I love you" when we hang up. Well, when I did finally get ahold of him he sounded very irritated and I teasingly said "You sound thrilled to hear from me." he said he was in the middle of shaving his head, so I told him I would let him go so he could finish. I got no "I love you" or any form of endearment in his tone. I Think... I hope the reasoning is because I went overboard. Okay, so I know I messed up, I called too many times. Yes.. it was alot trust me. I haven't called him since, I know giving him some space is the best thing to do. Anyone else ever have this happen? What's the best way to "erase" this and move forward?
pdslt Posted April 4, 2008 Posted April 4, 2008 I'm no expert, i've got my own post seeking advice! But i have been on the receiving end of your situation before and may know how your boyfriend may be feeling. Flooding someone with your insecurities can have a number of effects. First of all it's a bit of a turn off for most people, it reassures people that they don't have to put in effort to stay close to you, and it can bring people to associate you as an annoyance. Instead of calling him, figure out why your feeling insecure and deal with that feeling yourself. Just be honest and tell him that you felt insecure because of the distance.
j_hunt_12 Posted April 4, 2008 Posted April 4, 2008 My girls done something like that once... It does not sound like that big of a deal unless you start being insecure way too often. Different guys have different tolerance for stuff like that. Mine is average, his probably is too. It is a very huge turn-off though... just say you are sorry. It will pass with time probably. just curious... how many times was it? peace
Author LearningToFly Posted April 4, 2008 Author Posted April 4, 2008 I called him about 8-9 times that day. Normally I just call once or twice and leave a message the second time if I don't hear back. If he does have an "average tolerance" for female crazy behavior, I'm assuming that we can move past this right? That is if he ever decides to call me.
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