Evilken21 Posted April 4, 2008 Posted April 4, 2008 If you have seen my past threads. Of course there are probably about a 100 topics about this issue but just in case you haven't let me explain. In a nutshell. I creeped out a few girls and I am still upset over it. If you want to know what I did to creep them out. I will provide a link to the girls I am currently upset about http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t115193/ http://www.enotalone.com/forum/showthread.php?t=203656 http://www.enotalone.com/forum/showthread.php?t=190911 Alright. I get upset over 3 girls. but not all at once. It alternates and it's usually because not only did they admire me at first but. now they think I am a total creep. I cannot stand it. To like these girls and they think you are a creepy guy and never want to get near you. It is a terrible feeling and its worse for me when they have liked me at first. Which means that I blew it. it was my fault and that makes me feel worse than if it wasn't my fault and it was simply because they didn't find me attractive in the first place. Sometimes they don't cross my mind. but SOMETHING will always remind me of them. so than I think about 1 of these girls..I keep thinking...than BAM. I get in this depressing state where I moan about how I screwed up and that how I could of prevent it from happening. You know. I wish I can simply not care. I wish I can simply not give a damn and sometimes I don't but I get these mood swrings. Like. I'll be in a good mood and when I think about one of them and what has happened. I get depressed. Probably because I knew I had a chance with them but I blew it and I HATE myself for it. Sometimes. I want to smooth things over with them. hell. I always think about it. I always think about trying so I can end on good terms with them. so I can feel better about myself. I think this is what this is all about. I think...I want to be on good terms with them so I can feel better about myself..! So I can daydream about how great I am. SO can say to myself "There aint a girl out there that doesn't think I am a total creep" "Yes! I am so likable! god. I love myself" but I can never say that to myself... So yeah. I think thats how I feel about it. and please do not be too harsh on me. I am already down in the dumps as it is.
SeraBella Posted April 4, 2008 Posted April 4, 2008 Listen, you're letting the "creepy" thing bother you too much. You are taking it too literally. Things will never work out 100% of the time and you are taking this stuff way too hard. Stop it. First, you need to let things drop. If it doesn't work out, let it roll off of your back. You move into stalker potential when you keep calling, questioning, emailing, and hounding. That is when it gets creepy. So relax! Women don't want to be hounded like that! Also, you should NEVER have your friends get involved the way you do. You should never have your friends turn into stalkers like that. These women were not even girlfriends of yours...have your friends even met them? Why would you have your friends IM, email, and question them??? Your behavior with all three of these women was inappropriate. Just accept it is over and move on. Smoothing things over with them WILL NOT improve your life. Trying to contact them to smooth things over will just make things seem worse and worse. So forget that idea. We've all been rejected. It's life. And I get the feeling you are young so it probably stings a little more. It's not your looks. Even the most gorgeous men and women have been rejected. I'm sure you're an attractive guy...it just doesn't always work out. Try to find people with more common interests. It seems like compatibility issues here. For instance...you and Jen didn't seem to have much in common, but it took meeting her and hanging out to realize that. Sometimes one person is less accepting of those differences than the other and that is where it doesn't work out. Jen wasn't accepting of those differences. With Courtney, you should have just let it drop, but you harrassed her. Don't do that ever again. It's not funny. It's not cute, and it's rude. You would not like if someone was doing that to you. Don't bother her by trying to apologize. Just take the knowledge now and learn from it. Don't do it in the future. I think with Mila there was just nothing there ever. You were only using her as someone to talk with when you had nothing else to do. She realized that and moved on. Don't ask girls if they miss you...especially girls that barely know you. It seems needy and desperate. You seem very depressed and very down on yourself. Have you ever been to a counselor? Or have you talked with a doctor about this? I think maybe counseling/meds could help you.
MoonlightLover Posted April 4, 2008 Posted April 4, 2008 creepy is good, we're all secretly twisted in some way some more than others. express it.
SeraBella Posted April 4, 2008 Posted April 4, 2008 And I'm sure you're not really a creep, psycho, or a stalker. You just need to let things drop. When it doesn't work out, move on. You know what you've done wrong...so just use it and don't make those same mistakes again. Everything that has happened can be used as a learning experience. There is no need to dwell upon something that didn't work out. And all the time you are spending thinking about these three girls is time wasted. Focus on yourself and becoming who you want to be in life. Don't worry about any of those girls.
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FF84 Posted December 24, 2008 Posted December 24, 2008 If you want this thread deleted then send a message to a moderator. Drawing attention to threads you don't want people to see is not a very good idea is it? I've just read the threads you've linked to, and I'm sure others will aswell so bumping this up isn't helpful for you... Find a moderator and send them a message.
Author Evilken21 Posted December 24, 2008 Author Posted December 24, 2008 But how do I send them the message? there is no option to send them a message
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