becky001555 Posted April 3, 2008 Posted April 3, 2008 Brief overview of story; -Ex broke up with me on valentines day after 2.5 years together -Said he needed space -I couldnt handle that and began ringing/texting/crying etc -I found out he had already slept with 2 people after a month of us splitting up -LOTS of harsh/angry/horrible/terrible things were said to each other -We spent the day together before beginning NC, had a really nice time, but he says he's still not sure about us and that if we do not start NC then there will never be a chance for us at all. -NC begins Okay, so ive had my phone switched off all day as i keep getting calls from people at my mobile phone company, so i switched it back on this evening and i had an text from my ex asking 'if i was okay and had i been up to much?' I wasn't going to text back so i left it, but eventually i text back just telling him that id just been getting on with work, it was going okay and asked how he was, he text back saying he was basically doing the same and his work was going well, so i said 'im glad that its going well for you,' and then wasn't expecting a text back but he sent one saying 'im glad it is for you aswell too'. now im confused, do i start NC again to see if he texts me again in the next few days? do i text him first this time?? ahhhh lol xx
Amy22 Posted April 4, 2008 Posted April 4, 2008 I wouldn't test him the first time. He wanted nc I would let him start the contact if that is what you want. My bf and I broke up and went through nc. If he texted me or called I would talk or text back. Not always right away. I didn't want him to think I was sitting around waiting for his text messages. But I wanted to get back together so I didn't want to ignore him when he tried to contact me. I just didn't contact him for awhile so that he had the time he needed to figure things out in his head. It didn't take him long. I wouldn't sit around and wait forever. Do you want to get back together?
Chinook Posted April 4, 2008 Posted April 4, 2008 Becky, he's doing the back-burner-girl thing. You know that. If he wants to reconcile let him make the effort. I'd go back to NC. Yes it runs the risk of giving the impression you're not interested, but at the same time... if HE is interested, he will make more of an effort than a couple of text messages.
Author becky001555 Posted April 5, 2008 Author Posted April 5, 2008 Thanks for your replies, yes in spite of my better judgement, i do want to get back with him, i miss him, i was struggling with NC as Chinook knows but i was getting through it, now this has completely thrown me off where i was heading, i text him tonight, i know i shouldnt have, i really do, i text him asking him if he was okay and what he was up too he text back saying that he was watching a film (my FAVORITE film, ands he knows this and he was quoting things and stuff) and i text saying (and i probably shouldnt have) 'is it okay if i ring u next week, just for a chat', and now hes not txt bk and now i feel rubbbish again, i miss him as my best friend and i was okay until he contacted me, im gonna try and maintain NC now, i really am it's just hard
Chinook Posted April 5, 2008 Posted April 5, 2008 Oh Becky, I really wish he wasn't doing this. I think you need to lay it out for him... either stop contacting you or make an effort to get his **** together and try to work things out. If he isn't prepared to do that, then you need to walk away hun. He's going to wear you down with this kind of crap.
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