confused62181 Posted April 3, 2008 Posted April 3, 2008 Okay my story is really screwed up but I need some insight. I am young, only 27 with 2 kids. I have been married for almost 5 years and been with him for 8. I had my first kid at 20. Just so you have a little background info. A few years ago the H started to change. He wasn't as caring and helpful I was doing everything. Including working and going to school. I was basically a single mom with a roommate who wanted sex. I talked to him things changed. We had a second child. He was barely therethrough the pregnancy and my mom had to kick him when I was giving birth. It was embarassing but I figured he was tired because I went into the hospital at 1am. I was wrong things still didn't change and now I was raising 2 kids and going to school. So about a year ago our marriage was really falling apart. I found comfort in another man and eventually cheated on him. The OM was also going through a rough time in his marriage. Anyway, H found out and I stopped everything with the OM. The H and I decided to work things out, we went to therapy everything. It's been about a year since the affair and things were going really well. We moved into a house and everything. Two weeks ago I found a website the H went on all the time. It is a website where people can find 3somes or people to be physical with, without anyone knowing. He had a profile set up but instead of posting pics of himself he posted pics of me. My naked body (5 pics to be exact) was posted all over the internet. Not only that he used my pics to try to get involved in other 3somes. I feel horrible. I am so miserable. I can't understand why he would do that to me. He said it was because the affair happened a year ago and he wanted to see if he could cheat on me. He has destroyed me inside. I cry for no reason, I am sad a majority of the time. I am going to see a therapist starting next week. He wants to make things work but he can't even touch me without me crying. I don't know what to do. Any insight would be great.
whichwayisup Posted April 3, 2008 Posted April 3, 2008 Two wrongs don't make a right. I know this hurts you..But it seems he never really did get over the pain you caused him by cheating on him. Again, two wrongs don't make a right. Let me ask, did he actually DO this stuff, or just looking on websites? Go to counselling, and also do marriage counselling together.
sally4sara Posted April 3, 2008 Posted April 3, 2008 How on earth would pretending to be you on a hook up site help him find out if he could cheat on you?!? Are you sure he isn't thinking of filing for divorce and set this up to furbish evidence against you for court?
whichwayisup Posted April 3, 2008 Posted April 3, 2008 Either that or he was reacting and pissed off, so in a malcious attempt to make his wife look bad and make her suffer.
Author confused62181 Posted April 4, 2008 Author Posted April 4, 2008 The website he was on is a swingers website so he used my pictures to set up the profile saying we were looking for a couple to experiment with or another woman for a threesome. Then he went around sayin that I wanted him to meet the couples or woman first before I got involved. That's how he was using the website and if he was using it as a way to set me up well it back fired because I found out and now I have all the evidence against him and I am planning on going to file a report with the police so it's on record when the time does come for us to separate.
Thunder973 Posted April 4, 2008 Posted April 4, 2008 If he cheats on you I don't think you have any reason to hold that against him.
Curmudgeon Posted April 4, 2008 Posted April 4, 2008 If he cheats on you I don't think you have any reason to hold that against him. Are you one of those "eye-for-an-eye and tooth-for-a-tooth" kind of people? What part of this, "The H and I decided to work things out, we went to therapy everything. It's been about a year since the affair and things were going really well. We moved into a house and everything." didn't you read or comprehend? Sounds to me as if they came to an agreement and if he's blatantly violating it she has every right to be upset. What she did was unfortunate but posting nude pictures of your spouse online without their knowledge and permission to troll for swinging couples? I think not. Please tell me you're in junior high and were home sick for the day when you posted this.
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