shockandawed Posted April 6, 2008 Posted April 6, 2008 First of all, it is definitely not gender related. I have met girls who have complained to me about it happening to them, only to turn around and do it to me. Honestly, I think alot of it has to do with online dating. I have done it twice. Four years ago after my divorce and for the last year or so. There really seems to be a difference now than even just back then. When I first did it, seemed like I was meeting people who were really looking for someone. Now, it seems like there is much more of a "just looking" mentality. Everyone usually has more than one person they are talking to, which I am guilty of as well. The pattern can be fairly consistent, several IMs and emails, phone calls, decent first date or even second and then bam, gone. I think in many cases they have found a new profile or contact that is giving the same excitement you were when you first started talking. Sadly, I have probably been guilty of it myself, although, I never just go MIA. I would love to meet someone elsewhere than online.
amerikajin Posted April 6, 2008 Posted April 6, 2008 Dating's a weird game, and it's best not to think about it too much in the early going. I think the fact is that anything goes in the first few weeks of dating. I mean there are so many different levels of attraction. It is entirely possible that she could still be somewhat attracted to the OP - just not that attracted. Maybe she's got another guy or two she's going to date in the next week. It's nothing the OP wouldn't do, I'm sure. I have learned to take things very slow and easy in the early stages of a relationship. Once in a while, you meet someone who rings all of the bells, pushes all of your buttons, and makes you sing all the octaves. You can only hope that you make her feel the same way. Once in a very long while, you find a relationship like that...but it's hard to find.
mental_traveller Posted April 7, 2008 Posted April 7, 2008 The golden rule of dating - if they don't get back to you, they aren't interested. Stop torturing yourself trying to find an explanation, accept she has no interest, and move on.
DanielMadr Posted April 7, 2008 Posted April 7, 2008 First of all, it is definitely not gender related. I have met girls who have complained to me about it happening to them, only to turn around and do it to me. Honestly, I think alot of it has to do with online dating. I have done it twice. Four years ago after my divorce and for the last year or so. There really seems to be a difference now than even just back then. When I first did it, seemed like I was meeting people who were really looking for someone. Now, it seems like there is much more of a "just looking" mentality. Everyone usually has more than one person they are talking to, which I am guilty of as well. The pattern can be fairly consistent, several IMs and emails, phone calls, decent first date or even second and then bam, gone. I think in many cases they have found a new profile or contact that is giving the same excitement you were when you first started talking. Sadly, I have probably been guilty of it myself, although, I never just go MIA. I would love to meet someone elsewhere than online. Yep. Serial Daters. Need a new warm (virtual)body every day or so.
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