TheFonz Posted April 3, 2008 Posted April 3, 2008 If a girl hooks up with you soon, say on the first date, does that mean she wants just sex, or does she want or is open to a relationship?
Advocate's Devilette Posted April 3, 2008 Posted April 3, 2008 One of two possibilities. 1. She is desperate and thinks sleeping with the guy will get him to be her boyfriend or 2. She, like the guy, just wants a one-night stand and doesn't want a relationship with the guy.
Author TheFonz Posted April 3, 2008 Author Posted April 3, 2008 I also had a somewhat related question that probably needs it's own thread, but I don't want to be the newbie with all the question. Girls seem to mostly want sex and a relationship. But how many girls wouldn't mind a relationship with a guy that has other relationships?
johan Posted April 3, 2008 Posted April 3, 2008 Depends on the girl. Some women think they are buying affection with early sex. Others are horny and are hoping the guy doesn't get emotionally attached.
Author TheFonz Posted April 3, 2008 Author Posted April 3, 2008 Depends on the girl. Some women think they are buying affection with early sex. Others are horny and are hoping the guy doesn't get emotionally attached. OK I agree with girls and like ones that are doing the first, but not so much with the second. They sound like they want just sex and aren't being honest about it. But I was wondering which type do you think is more common.
johan Posted April 3, 2008 Posted April 3, 2008 Probably the former. But you can't really tell until afterwards.
Advocate's Devilette Posted April 3, 2008 Posted April 3, 2008 I also had a somewhat related question that probably needs it's own thread, but I don't want to be the newbie with all the question. Girls seem to mostly want sex and a relationship. But how many girls wouldn't mind a relationship with a guy that has other relationships? Having a relationship with a guy who has other relationships defeats the purpose of having a relationship.
melodicmaybe Posted April 3, 2008 Posted April 3, 2008 "One of two possibilities. 1. She is desperate and thinks sleeping with the guy will get him to be her boyfriend or 2. She, like the guy, just wants a one-night stand and doesn't want a relationship with the guy." Hypothetically, I could see being in that situation and it not really being either of those. If he was into it, and I was into it, then yeah maybe we'd sleep together on a first date. If further dates developed that would be nice as obviously there's some kind of connection there, but at the same time sometimes it's meant to be and sometimes not. It's not that I'd be looking for a one night stand, but I try (and admittedly I'm a bit of an odd fish) to approach each situation with as few preconceptions as possible.
sweetbutcheeky Posted April 3, 2008 Posted April 3, 2008 "One of two possibilities. 1. She is desperate and thinks sleeping with the guy will get him to be her boyfriend or 2. She, like the guy, just wants a one-night stand and doesn't want a relationship with the guy." 3. She is interested in a relationship and she hasn't had sex in a while, was horny. One kiss led to another and wasn't thinking about much else in the moment. But then after the fact probably worried that she blew any chance of more because of having sex too soon.
FormerNiceGuy Posted April 3, 2008 Posted April 3, 2008 If a girl hooks up with you soon, say on the first date, does that mean she wants just sex, or does she want or is open to a relationship? It's just means she likes you. Don't overanalyze. Just go with the flow.
Author TheFonz Posted April 3, 2008 Author Posted April 3, 2008 One of two possibilities. 1. She is desperate and thinks sleeping with the guy will get him to be her boyfriend or You mean desperate for a BF? Why would she have to be desperate to think this? Because she doesn't have any other FB's or FWB's or what? What are some ways to identify and meet more girls like that? 2. She, like the guy, just wants a one-night stand and doesn't want a relationship with the guy. This would be OK if I just met her or only talked to her once.
Author TheFonz Posted April 3, 2008 Author Posted April 3, 2008 Probably the former. But you can't really tell until afterwards. So then it's all good to go that way for a relationship, and since I won't know for sure until afterwards, I should just go for it right away right?
Author TheFonz Posted April 3, 2008 Author Posted April 3, 2008 "One of two possibilities. 1. She is desperate and thinks sleeping with the guy will get him to be her boyfriend or 2. She, like the guy, just wants a one-night stand and doesn't want a relationship with the guy." 3. She is interested in a relationship and she hasn't had sex in a while, was horny. One kiss led to another and wasn't thinking about much else in the moment. But then after the fact probably worried that she blew any chance of more because of having sex too soon. You're just elaborating on one, which is OK but no need to create a new number hen it's the same as an existing one .
MayDay Posted April 3, 2008 Posted April 3, 2008 So then it's all good to go that way for a relationship, and since I won't know for sure until afterwards, I should just go for it right away right? Is this the first date you had with a girl?
Author TheFonz Posted April 3, 2008 Author Posted April 3, 2008 "One of two possibilities. 1. She is desperate and thinks sleeping with the guy will get him to be her boyfriend or 2. She, like the guy, just wants a one-night stand and doesn't want a relationship with the guy." Hypothetically, I could see being in that situation and it not really being either of those. If he was into it, and I was into it, then yeah maybe we'd sleep together on a first date. If further dates developed that would be nice as obviously there's some kind of connection there, but at the same time sometimes it's meant to be and sometimes not. It's not that I'd be looking for a one night stand, but I try (and admittedly I'm a bit of an odd fish) to approach each situation with as few preconceptions as possible. This is how I look at things, but you're the only female that has sted it that way too. So i assumed it was always black or white either or with most females.
Author TheFonz Posted April 3, 2008 Author Posted April 3, 2008 Is this the first date you had with a girl? Yeah I'm saying first date or with 3 dates, perferably first.
Advocate's Devilette Posted April 3, 2008 Posted April 3, 2008 You mean desperate for a BF? Why would she have to be desperate to think this? Because she doesn't have any other FB's or FWB's or what? What are some ways to identify and meet more girls like that? This would be OK if I just met her or only talked to her once. She really had a spark for the guy and thinks that sleeping with him right away is the way to get him. In other words she is hoping she can f**k him into a relationship, just the same as what johan says. It means she has very little self-esteem and thinks sex is the way to get a guy. It's really not rocket science, Fonz. You might want to get some therapy if it's too difficult to comprehend but I think most people in 8th grade could understand the point I and others are consistently making here.
MayDay Posted April 3, 2008 Posted April 3, 2008 Yeah I'm saying first date or with 3 dates, perferably first. So its the first you have been with any girl. Just take it slow
Author TheFonz Posted April 3, 2008 Author Posted April 3, 2008 It's just means she likes you. Don't overanalyze. Just go with the flow. That's what my working principle is. If a girl like you she usually does it right away and if she dosn't really like you she plays hard to get. However, I'm not going to lie some of the girls sort of disappeared on their own accord after a what turned out to be a ONS. I guess they were no.2 girls. Glad I found out sooner rather than latter though.
Advocate's Devilette Posted April 3, 2008 Posted April 3, 2008 That's what my working principle is. If a girl like you she usually does it right away and if she dosn't really like you she plays hard to get. However, I'm not going to lie some of the girls sort of disappeared on their own accord after a what turned out to be a ONS. I guess they were no.2 girls. Glad I found out sooner rather than latter though. Thing about that is....how can you really know if you like a person that much from one date? You can't know them well enough to do that and to assess if you want to be serious or not just from one date. If a woman doesn't want to have sex right away, she is getting to know you and establishing a connection. It's kind of gross to share the most intimate thing you can share with a human being right away. It is so much more enjoyable and fulfilling once you establish a relationship.
Advocate's Devilette Posted April 3, 2008 Posted April 3, 2008 You're just trying to convince women to put out right away. That is your motive.
Author TheFonz Posted April 3, 2008 Author Posted April 3, 2008 So its the first you have been with any girl. Just take it slow No, it's not my first time. I've been a player since 13 . I'm in my late 20's now.
MayDay Posted April 3, 2008 Posted April 3, 2008 No, it's not my first time. I've been a player since 13 . I'm in my late 20's now. And you haven't figured out these questions by now? What's the issue?
Author TheFonz Posted April 3, 2008 Author Posted April 3, 2008 And you haven't figured out these questions by now? What's the issue? I'm not a mind reader or fortune teller though. Well not quite almost.
melodicmaybe Posted April 3, 2008 Posted April 3, 2008 This is how I look at things, but you're the only female that has sted it that way too. So i assumed it was always black or white either or with most females. Black and white work well when you're painting, but aren't nearly as satisfying in real life.
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